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Thanks everyone for the ideas! The sitter situation though its hard to explain that one its a mile long story!
A sitter situation?
The thing is your sitter is supposed to raise your kids the way you would if you were home. There will always be variations, but they shouldn't be major. I had to fire a day care person, because I felt she wasn't treating my children properly. We felt the dip in income was better than our children possibly being emotionally harmed by this person.
Most of the time, if kids get your
attention that they NEED during the day, they won't seek you out at night unless they are sick, or scared or really sad about something. If daytime attention is lacking, they KNOW you are relaxing in the evening and most of all you are there
at night. So, if the daytime isn't going well, they are
going to need
your attention at night.
Kids need a LOT of attention from their parents, nothing is going to change this. Often changes need to be made in order to change behavior, for both you and your kids.
Increase fun daytime attention, reduce video games and TV during the day, and in the evening while you are home (and play with them instead) and institute a bedtime ritual and I can pretty much guarantee that within two or three months, things will be better.
My Man and I have three kids, two are now adults, (and one is an adolescent, now) so we've been there.