My 11 year old want's to dye her hair.

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My 11 year old want's to dye her hair.

ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
So my wife bought some hair dye that comes with a red highlight dye and my daughter asked if she could have some of the red as highlights. Both the wife and I had our "punk" day's so we really do not care, but we were 16-17 years old too.

So I thought I would get everyone in Eden-land to chime in and tell me what you think. She has medium dark strait long hair.
11/13/2010
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I guess I am wondering if she if too young.
11/13/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Well, I think highlighting is very different than a full hair dye. I would say that 11 is not too young for streaks/highlights, but is too young for bleaching or a full dye-job.

Plus the dying should be done with full supervision so she doesn't get hurt accidentally.
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Well, I think highlighting is very different than a full hair dye. I would say that 11 is not too young for streaks/highlights, but is too young for bleaching or a full dye-job.

Plus the dying should be done with full supervision so she ...
I defiantly said no to a full dye. lol The wife will probably do it for her or at least supervise. I did offer though.
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Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I agree with Delicious Surprise. A fun streak of a bright color at that age is pretty harmless in my book.

When you think about it, it's just a color, and it's not like she has a boss or anything at this point that's going to judge her for it. If it were my 11 year old, I'd be ok with a touch of bright color.
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Kindred Kindred
I wouldn't have a problem if she were my child and wanted to dye her hair. I grew up pretty open minded and did my own thing as a teen as well. My only concern would be how safe the procedure would be. Dyeing can involve harsh chemicals. Are there any potential dangers for a young child being exposed to them? Also, any potential long term damage to her hair since a child's hair is different than an adults?
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Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I would let my daughter do it. It is just highlights. I would say no to the whole head though...
11/13/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I really don't think there's anything wrong with her having colorful streaks with the wash-out dyes (the ones that stay in for two or three washings) at that age. If she doesn't like it she use Suave clarifying shampoo to wash it out.

Besides, if she can be trusted with a razor on her legs, then she's old enough for hair streaks. I'd suggest having the missus do the streaking so your daughter can see how it works on her own head before she's allowed to touch the dye brush herself.
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I agree with Delicious Surprise. A fun streak of a bright color at that age is pretty harmless in my book.

When you think about it, it's just a color, and it's not like she has a boss or anything at this point that's going to ...
Thanks for the input Tori Rebel. I think the only people that will really say anything are the ones from church but I agree it's just some fun color and I find it can look really good.

Just look around here, right.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Kindred
I wouldn't have a problem if she were my child and wanted to dye her hair. I grew up pretty open minded and did my own thing as a teen as well. My only concern would be how safe the procedure would be. Dyeing can involve harsh chemicals. Are ...
Good thought's Kindred, have to look into that. Thanks
11/13/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I really don't think there's anything wrong with her having colorful streaks with the wash-out dyes (the ones that stay in for two or three washings) at that age. If she doesn't like it she use Suave clarifying shampoo to wash it ...
I really agree with something Chilipepper said -- about first trying the wash out dyes. That way she can see if she really likes it first. You can always go permanent after she gets a feel for the look and how she likes it! The wash out dyes are also much easier on the hair and won't damage it.
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
I really agree with something Chilipepper said -- about first trying the wash out dyes. That way she can see if she really likes it first. You can always go permanent after she gets a feel for the look and how she likes it! The wash out dyes are ...
Ha, the wife and I were just talking about that. Her hair is real nice and I do not want to take the chance of it messing up her hair and my daughter does not want it cut short.
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DustBunny DustBunny
My friend wanted to dye her hair at that age, her mother said "Wait till summer". Over the summer she got colored streaks put in with her mother permission, they didn't last long since she swam a lot, but she got what she wanted. The reason her mother asked her to wait was because some school get a stick up their ass when kids dye their hair, even suspending a kid in 1st grade for having a mowhawk. It's rather lame, but she wanted to be sure her daughter stayed out of trouble. This way she can still enjoy it, show it off to friends, but also wont risk a teacher thinking less of her for it too.
11/13/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Ha, the wife and I were just talking about that. Her hair is real nice and I do not want to take the chance of it messing up her hair and my daughter does not want it cut short.
Yeah, it is pretty sad to damage beautiful "virgin" hair! I think the wash out dyes are a great idea. That way she can change her look often without damaging her lovely hair. Besides, teenagers change their minds a lot, so a wash out dye would probably be perfect. Not to mention lots of fun. Just make sure you buy a good brand that will nourish hair and don't buy a "cheap" one. Some of the high quality temporary dyes can actually have a conditioning effect and make the hair even more lustrous.
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by DustBunny
My friend wanted to dye her hair at that age, her mother said "Wait till summer". Over the summer she got colored streaks put in with her mother permission, they didn't last long since she swam a lot, but she got what she wanted. The ...
Thankfully her school is not like that.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
Yeah, it is pretty sad to damage beautiful "virgin" hair! I think the wash out dyes are a great idea. That way she can change her look often without damaging her lovely hair. Besides, teenagers change their minds a lot, so a wash out dye ...
Could you recommend one?
11/13/2010
kck kck
I wanted to get highlights in my hair SO BADLY in middle school, starting around 6th grade. All of my friends were getting highlights, and I desperately wanted some too! But my Mom wouldn't let me even though I pouted, sulked, maybe cried--I was very angry.

Looking back, I am very, very glad my Mom never let me treat my hair. All of my friends from grammar school are hair-dye addicts now, and because they started so young their hair has been damaged by the chemicals. I mean, they're not balding or anything But they do have to keep up with it constantly, and they've paid the price. It's also very expensive. I, on the other hand, don't have to worry about my roots showing, the chemicals in the dye, buying special "for color-treated hair" shampoo, or any of that other stuff!

Again, I am very appreciative that my Mom made the authoritative decision when I was younger to not let me dye my hair. That's been my experience anyways.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by kck
I wanted to get highlights in my hair SO BADLY in middle school, starting around 6th grade. All of my friends were getting highlights, and I desperately wanted some too! But my Mom wouldn't let me even though I pouted, sulked, maybe cried--I was ...
Thanks kck, I appreciate you thought's.

I did mention that kind of stuff to her, she is still thinking it over.
11/13/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Could you recommend one?
I personally really like the L'Oreal products if you are buying over-the-counter. I don't have much experience with any other over-the-counter brands than L'Oreal since I have had friends with cosmetician licenses who were able to buy professional products for me. Do you have any friends like that who could help you out?

As far as great over-the-counter products, is there anybody else out there in EF land who can recommend a specific high-quality wash out dye that leaves the hair glossy, conditioned, and lustrous?
11/13/2010
Sir Sir
That's really entirely up to you, whether she's too "young" or not. Personally, I feel, let the child express themselves. It's not hurting anyone, just dying the hair.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
I personally really like the L'Oreal products if you are buying over-the-counter. I don't have much experience with any other over-the-counter brands than L'Oreal since I have had friends with cosmetician licenses who were able to buy ...
No, but there is a Sally's, would they have something there?
11/13/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by kck
I wanted to get highlights in my hair SO BADLY in middle school, starting around 6th grade. All of my friends were getting highlights, and I desperately wanted some too! But my Mom wouldn't let me even though I pouted, sulked, maybe cried--I was ...
Yeah, I never chemically treated my hair with dyes when I was young either. I didn't begin until I was about thirty. "Natural" hair is so much healthier. It is an endless cycle to keep the hair looking decent once you start dying or bleaching with permanent dye.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Sir
That's really entirely up to you, whether she's too "young" or not. Personally, I feel, let the child express themselves. It's not hurting anyone, just dying the hair.
Agreed, now if she wanted to spike it with bee's wax then that would be a different story.
11/13/2010
Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
No, but there is a Sally's, would they have something there?
I would go to Sally's and ask to talk with the manager. Ask the manager how much experience s/he has had as a beautician (because often the manager at Sally's has actually worked as a beautician). If you get the feeling that s/he is not that experienced and knowledgeable about hair dyes, try to find someone else who is. When you do find someone who is knowledgeable, let him or her steer you in the right direction.

I'm not sure what brands Sally's carries since I haven't shopped there in years, but they should definitely have plenty of good choices there. Let them know that you are concerned about protecting your daughter's hair from damage and that you want a wash out dye for highlights that is gentle and conditioning.
11/13/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
No, but there is a Sally's, would they have something there?
Sally's carries Manic Panic - it comes in crazy bright colors and I have bright blonde hair and since I don't bleach it first, it washes out in less than 2 weeks and has never stained my hair. I hadn't done it in years and just started recently again and it really is fun. Can't hurt to do a little test patch though, just to make sure she likes the way the color comes out.
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Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I actually asked around here (because we have so many bright-haired community members) a few weeks back when I started tipping my hair again, and I got some really helpful responses about brands: link
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I actually asked around here (because we have so many bright-haired community members) a few weeks back when I started tipping my hair again, and I got some really helpful responses about brands: link ...
Thanks, i'll check it out.
11/13/2010
kck kck
I think it's also worth mentioning that her natural hair color will affect her ability to get any color from dye. If she has dark hair, neither permanent nor temporary hair coloring will really show if she doesn't first bleach her hair. The color won't be very noticeable and will fade rather quickly. I really recommend not letting her bleach her hair--bleaching is very harsh on skin and hair, has to be redone often, and can do permanent damage.
11/13/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by kck
I think it's also worth mentioning that her natural hair color will affect her ability to get any color from dye. If she has dark hair, neither permanent nor temporary hair coloring will really show if she doesn't first bleach her hair. The ...
Naw, no bleach for her.
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Alicia Alicia
Yea I say let her go for a few streaks.
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