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Does it bother you when people say to you, "You are smarter than you look"? To me, that seems like a backhanded compliment. I'd want to know what makes me look stupid.
No Inq, I sincerely take it as a compliment. When the term is used after you solved a problem, makes one feel good. When you have a good rapport with certain people, you can say just about anything.
Now when someone says, "No shit, Sherlock"
that has a different meaning.
Now that you asked what bothers me and use the word backhanded.
What does bother me is when some individuals twist things and then tell others. Or when someone has a beef with you, uses any/all opportunity to spread hearsay or twist things around and tell other unsuspecting people. Part of life though. Afterall we are all just human beings. To me white lies and 1/2 truths are still lies.
Best to enjoy life while one can.
Why waste time trying to hurt others ?