Rant about EF forum

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Rant about EF forum

Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
So I will start by saying this might get me banned from the forums or flagged yet again but Im pissed and think I have a right to express my opinion. I have loved being on ef and most of the people on here have been great but lately almost everything I post is getting flagged or I am being told I am doing something wrong. What pisses me off is I see other people doing the exact same things I do but I feel like I am the one who keeps getting warned. The first time I was warned was one thing and I corrected that issue but to keep being told that everything I am doing is wrong makes me not even want to post or share my opinion. I think that it is awsum eden offers all these great perks and by no means do I want to leave the site because I like many others enjoy those amazing perks but its very agervating to constantly be made to feel like I am doing something wrong and am under constant watch. I am a very very opinated person and I only post things that provide chances for others to share theirt opinions but I guess certain people should'nt be allowed opinions cause obviously everything I post is wrong. that is my rant like it or not i said what I needed to say.
04/07/2012
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DreamWolf DreamWolf
Well hun no worries, I often hear that I am posting something silly or wrong, better to say some comments disagree with my point of view as much as possible...

I have also had a few posts flagged and it made me worried, but remember that there are only a few rules here, at least as far as I know: try not to post too general things (I didn't know at the moment what to post, and posted silly stuff like what is your favorite fruit, vegetable - obviously getting flagged...! ) - and always include "Other" in the polls and comparisons, so people don't feel like you forget about those who have an opinion not listed!

Always be VERY polite and nice, and express your point of view in a fine and deliberate way even when you would just throw cursing words at the other!

Sooner or later you will just learn it all, and of course there are always people who find something no matter how purrrrrrrrrrrrrfect you try to make things! Brush em off of the shoulders, and just go on smilin! ~smiles soft and lays ears blushy
04/07/2012
Mwar Mwar
I haven't personally experienced this...

However, I think it sucks that instead of trying to get a point or info across we always have to worry about offending someone. We worry so much about wording that we lose the passion of what's on our mind.

It sucks the life out of things. I understand we're an open and positive forum and I LOVE that about EF. However, being positive also means live and let live. Unless something is absolutely egregious, I don't see the point of flagging or being mind police. I feel controlled enough in my everyday life.

Sorry your rant spawned a rant of my own. I agree and hope things get better for you
04/07/2012
meitman meitman
I've never personally had those issues (yet) and I don't know the ins and outs of your situation so I can't give much advice on it. I have noticed that the staff at Eden seem pretty understanding and aren't likely going to ban you for honest mistakes.

Try not to take it too personal if they tell you you're doing something wrong. Everyone has made mistakes and I know I didn't do everything right when I first started here. Hang in there.
04/08/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Originally posted by Mwar
I haven't personally experienced this...

However, I think it sucks that instead of trying to get a point or info across we always have to worry about offending someone. We worry so much about wording that we lose the passion of what's ...
I agree 100%. I've only been flagged once, and if I remember correctly it was when I stated my opinion (pro-life at the time.) I wasn't inflammatory or aggressive about it, but apparently the fact that I was pro-life pissed people off. I, too, think we should be free to share our opinions openly here, even if others disagree.
04/08/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
On one hand people have every right to get their panties in a twist and flag things, but that's why every flag is looked into personally by someone at Eden and they determine if it was you in the wrong or the flagger.

Unless you're getting messages from one of the mods (I think that JR tends to be the one) about your posts, it's probably just people getting too 'flag happy.' People can get offended by just about anything if they try hard enough, so I'd just make sure that you're saying things like "I personally believe that plan B is immoral" and not things like "Everyone who takes plan B is a murdering prostitute."
04/08/2012
buzz buzz
Uh, wtf?
04/08/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
So I will start by saying this might get me banned from the forums or flagged yet again but Im pissed and think I have a right to express my opinion. I have loved being on ef and most of the people on here have been great but lately almost everything ...
I am sorry that you're having a tough time What exactly is going on? What are you being flagged/warned for doing? Maybe we can figure out why it's happening.

I can say that I have noticed your posting a lot on the forums. That very well might be one thing that got flags. However, I also notice that you are contributing to the forums in some of the posts I've read from you. Usually you're starting a fun, interesting topic and I like those from you because I really enjoy talking and getting to know others. I can see that you're a friendly person! I'm guessing some of the posts may have come across as spam? I don't know. Have you posted things that would be considered "irrelevant". Things such as "does this toy work?" or something like that will be considered irrelevant for different reasons. One being that you can read reviews and are usually expected to do so if a question you have can be cleared up by reading. Some questions cannot be cleared up by reading reviews and those types of questions are not spam.

If you post a lot of things like I mentioned and aren't more detailed about what you want to know and you do it multiple times, you'll probably get marked as spamming.

Is that what happened or is there something else? Have you talked with one of the admins or whatever they are called? You might submit a support ticket to clear things up. However, I'm not sure if you should send in a ticket or go directly to a specific person? I would do that though and clear things up. Have you even been told what you were doing wrong? If not, ask! It's OK to ask. Then you can fix whatever is wrong. I doubt you've done something offensive to someone because I've gotten to know a little about you by chatting here on the forums so I'd say it's probably a misunderstanding or you're being thought of as a spammer. If it is because of posts that are just for points and have no real topic or nothing to actually have a conversation about, I'm sure you will be fine as long as you don't do it anymore. Now the topics you've started that I've seen lately are fun. I can't remember specifics about them, but I know I've seen ones from you that weren't spam, but were nice, fun types of discussions. Those I know are not considered spam.

I'd suggest trying to get to the root of what you were supposed to have done. If someone has just disagreeed with your opinion or POV like DreamWolf said, don't even worry about that! People will dislike you for opinions and things like that. You just have to try and brush those things off. It's hard I know! But as long as you haven't said something nasty or attacked someone, then there's no reason to be upset over different POV'S. I've never seen you say anything that would be hurtful to others so I really don't think that is the cause of your being flagged.

Let us know how it goes.
04/08/2012
Beck Beck
If you aren't being contacted by the administration about your flags, usually via email by Jr, then nothing to worry about. You might be able to find out what the issue is here. There have been a lot of complaints about spam on the forum. Others might be flagging you because they are seeing your post as spam. If the administration is contacting you, then it is spam, but if not, it is not viewed as spam by them. And that is all that matters.
04/09/2012
Forum Moderator Forum Moderator
If you are being contacted by the administration about your posting activity, (which is either Gary, JR or Stormy or the Forum Moderator) there's a really good chance that they've witnessed spammy activity or someone has reported the activity to them.

You are more than welcome to express your opinion on Edenfantasys. We happily listen to all feedback and take it into consideration. If you feel you aren't doing anything wrong, then send a note back to whoever contacted you about it. They are all very reasonable people and are more than likely going to give you the benefit of the doubt.

If multiple complaints come in and you have been contacted by one of the administrators but the activity continues, then further disciplinary actions will result.
04/09/2012
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