What is the best way to control your anger?

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What is the best way to control your anger?

ThorHah ThorHah
Need help on this one.
01/31/2013
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JG24FanUK JG24FanUK
If you are angry then what you can do to calm down is breath deeply in and out slowly. To release tension from anger, I suggest running, going for a walk, doing a physical activity you like will help. I play basketball.
01/31/2013
TheirPet TheirPet
I usually count to ten in my head and, if and when that doesn't calm me, I excuse myself from the situation and go for a walk.
01/31/2013
doowop doowop
I agree. Personal time outs help a lot. I'm in the time out corner at least once a day.
01/31/2013
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Time out is a good thing. I just let it wash over me and let it go. Letting things go is important, not just for anger, but most stressful things.
01/31/2013
spiced spiced
In the moment, when I feel hard-to-control rage, I find a couple of deep breaths help a lot.

As strategies for the long-term, meditation has helped me immensely, as well as yoga and regular exercise.

I also like to keep in mind David Lee Roth's two rules of life: 1) don't sweat the small shit; 2) It's ALL small shit.
01/31/2013
js250 js250
Heat of the Moment Anger:
--I close my eyes, take a deep, cleansing breath through my nose (a couple if I need to), and remove myself from the room quietly. Then I do a quick 'processing' of my anger alone in a bathroom, outside, in the car, etc. If I have to go back to the situation I make it clear it is not a good thing to discuss at the moment.

Slow burning and long lasting:
--Go away from EVERYONE for a few hours!!! Walk, talk to myself, get my ugly thoughts and feelings out and make a point to listen to 'happy' upbeat music that will put me in a better mood. I then process why I am so mad--hurt, betrayed, used, or injustice towards...--Is it going to matter to me next month, 6 months from now, next year? Can I deal with the issue or is it going to fester and continue to burn? Is the person and issue worth the hold over my life I am giving them by being mad? Would my life be better if the person/issue was removed from my life? How do I remedy the residual feelings?

*****One thing to remember, when you allow your anger at someone to linger, you have given them power and control over you and your feelings. It hurts you more in the long run to be angry, learn to be able to categorize the types of anger, put it into perspective in regards to your future and pick your battles wisely. Protect yourself from your temper, learn to ask "in the long term, does this REALLY matter--or is it just an irritation that is getting blown out of proportion?" Then figure out an effective way for you to diminish the anger--turn it into a productive learning experience and go on with your life. This is much easier said than done, but if you continue to strive for that balance it gets easier with practice.
01/31/2013
El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
In the moment, when I feel hard-to-control rage, I find a couple of deep breaths help a lot.

As strategies for the long-term, meditation has helped me immensely, as well as yoga and regular exercise.

I also like to keep in mind David ...
My uncle told me that too!
01/31/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by TheirPet
I usually count to ten in my head and, if and when that doesn't calm me, I excuse myself from the situation and go for a walk.
This simple tool was taught to me as an out-of-control 7 year old. After 50+ years not much makes me mad anymore - but I still do the counting when necessary.
02/01/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
Exercise. That's my best control. I can leave the house in a total rage, come back from physical activity perfectly serene.
02/04/2013
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