When you need to vent or confide in someone, who do you usually choose?

js250 js250
I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
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Family
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Close friends or aquiaintences - which one?
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Co-workers
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EF forum, discussion or member - which one?
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Other - please explain.
18
Total votes: 94 (71 voters)
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07/18/2011
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js250 js250
I sometimes vent about non important (but angry) issues with strangers or people I barely know. I do not confide my serious problems/feelings in anyone at all, (preferring to deal with it myself), and I talk to my friends about certain basic or common issues and my daughter about upsetting but short lived issues.
07/18/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I normally prefer to vent to my husband, but I'll rant to my best friend, some of my family members, and my coworkers. They're all amazing people who will sit there and listen to me rant and rave about something that really makes no difference in the long run whatsoever, but I need to complain about it at that moment.
07/18/2011
Woman China Woman China
Depends on the topic to be honest.

But the very few people I vent too I only rant too simply because they will usually just laugh at me for it all. And that is what I want at the end of the day. I don't want pity or sympathy, I just want to be reminded that it is small potatoes and really not all that big int he grand scheme of things.
07/18/2011
Ansley Ansley
My husband.
07/18/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife.
07/18/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
Spouse.
07/18/2011
Ansley Ansley
I NEVER ever speak badly of my spouse when we're having problems, ever. I might inquire how someone else felt but I never tear him down in the process.

There's a very good reason for it, too. Chances are in your favor that you'll work the argument out with them and move on but whomever you've spilled the beans to might hold a grudge against your spouse, especially if it is a close friend or family member you've been talking to.

And of course if you are vehement about the depth of your anger and then it does get worked out, you could then be considered one who cries wolf.

I have a 'friend' that I frequently reject her calls as soon as I see it on the caller ID because I *KNOW* she's just going to tell me some sob story about how she picked a fight with her husband, slept with her boytoy, neglected her children and/or used drugs I don't condone the use of. If I do pick up the phone, I let her rant, I tell her to change it if that's what she wants and I get off the phone. I don't value her opinion, her parenting-style or really anything about her as a person at all because this is ALL she does in life. I certainly don't give a shit about anything related to her marriage. That's for sure!
07/18/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i go to my best friend or my bf.
07/18/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
Depending on the subject, usually my best friend. After careful consideration, sometimes my husband.
07/18/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
My best friend or my boyfriend.
07/18/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
My boyfriend, who just happens to me my best friend as well!
07/18/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
I go to my boyfriend or my best friend. They are the people I trust the most. For some things that aren't too personal I might talk to other friends.
07/18/2011
alliegator alliegator
Sometimes when I'm really upset, venting immediately into a diary is the best choice. That way I can spew all the crap I want, and not being saying stuff I don't really mean to someone.
07/18/2011
Waterfall Waterfall
I tend to vent to my close friends, they are the only ones who seem to really listen to me when it comes to stuff like that. And to thank them for all their listening I am always there when they want to vent as well
07/18/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
Depending on what I want to vent about, I either vent to my best friend from college (we've known each other for 7 years and lived together for 4 years) or I vent to my man. Even though he's a good listener and someone I trust sincerely, I limit my venting with my man because I don't want to whine too much.
07/18/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I vent to my fiancee and to my family when I feel like I need to.
07/18/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
My husband.
07/19/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
it depends on the situation because i talk to different people about different stuff. i usually vent to my close friends though; sometimes family if i feel i can share it with them
07/19/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
if i'm venting about my boy, i'll vent to girlfriends. anything else, i'll vent to my boy. family related stuff though (my parents, usually) i'll vent to my sisters. if it's about my sisters, i'll vent to my parents.

07/19/2011
joja joja
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
if i'm venting about my boy, i'll vent to girlfriends. anything else, i'll vent to my boy. family related stuff though (my parents, usually) i'll vent to my sisters. if it's about my sisters, i'll vent to my parents.

Exactly what I was gonna say, except for the family stuff. Family stuff goes to my boy as well.
07/19/2011
v23 v23
Usually my guy, we vent and make each other feel better . . . also my family at times.
07/19/2011
Errant Venture Errant Venture
No one. I just hold it in. I sometimes confide in my girl, but even then I restrain myself from full on venting.
07/19/2011
sarki sarki
My sister hears mine
07/19/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
It depends on the topic for me. Usually if I am going to vent, I talk to my husband or my mom. Most of the time though, I just hold it in, or I journal it privately so I can work through my feelings.
07/19/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
One of my two best friends. But now that I think of it, I haven't had the need to do it for a while...
07/20/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I was recently told that I was wrong in how I chose who to talk to or vent with by a friend of mine. I was just wondering if there was a normal or right way to choose and appreciate your help.
I will vent to my Master but I also have a very close friend who I like to vent to also. We go for breakfast and vent to each other.
07/20/2011
amandaco2011 amandaco2011
I vent to my SO and a few close friends.
07/20/2011
meitman meitman
I talk to my wife about everything because she's always on my side (even if she has to lovingly correct me) and I know it will stay between us. If I have to talk to someone besides her it's my brother-in-law because I know it will stay between us as well.
07/20/2011
usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Most of the time I go to my sister........
07/20/2011
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