I know it's a month old but I want to breathe life to this thread in case EVERYONE isn't aware of how serious this is. It's heartbreaking
. I was abused as a teen and JUST got out of the most terrifying, abusive, awful "relationship" of my life and I'm now dealing with the legal system. THANK GOD I'm in Iowa. Luckily, a lot of times they slap a DV offender with an additional charge, such as "assault causing bodily injury," which apparently is a felony here while domestic violence is only a misdemeanor. Of course
There are SO MANY OTHER crimes, PETTY crimes to decriminalize (as has been pointed out upthread). If people knew how many women die each year due to DV or how many women end up scarred for life physically and psychologically, ending up with PTSD.... I know there is a huge movement to explain that men are victims of DV by the hands of women, too, and I feel terrible for their predicament, but honestly? I lived in a town where I witnessed a boyfriend pushing my roommate on the ground where she hit her head HARD, and the police honestly laughed and didn't do a thing, had the nerve to ask her what she did to provoke him! If SHE hit him or scratched him etc! He was clearly larger than her, super calm and peaceful and collected while she was shaking and crying on the floor.
I'm actually quite the men's rights activist but find me a dozen men who have PTSD, shake when there's a knock at the door, have someone a foot taller than them and way stronger than them who beat them up, someone who pinned them down and raped them repeatedly. I admit I'm uneducated re: domestic violence in the gay population, but I have seen the women who have committed DV and they usually slap a guy across the face or push him down--bad, yes, traumatizing and fear-for-your-life? No.
Ugh. This stuff fires me up. I wonder how Topeka's doing with this.