All you people who have ever had a cold sore and regularly kiss and engage in unprotected oral sex, guess what?! You already have the virus both places!
Just based on statistics and the info and links that have been posted above, most of us in this thread ALREADY have herpes. That fits with the statistics that only 10 to 20% of the people who have it even know they have it. Most of us have it and don't realize it.
I got some ugly cold sores a few months ago, and yeah, I was upset cuz I thought I was clean and I thought it would make dating difficult. Turns out my first serious boyfriend, who was even a virgin at the time, had had cold sores previously
But I don't think its going to be too bad dating-wise, just ask people if they already have the cold sore virus (less scary wording than "herpes") and whether they mind getting it.
I think the chance of getting genital outbreaks depends much more on your susceptibility to them than on how often you've been exposed, since most of us have been exposed many, many times and few people have symptoms.