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I want to start experimenting with sex toys, but I don't know how to convince my fiance' (or however you spell that) to get me one. He and I talked about it yesterday, but he said he doesn't feel I need one, and he doesn't want it to
I want to start experimenting with sex toys, but I don't know how to convince my fiance' (or however you spell that) to get me one. He and I talked about it yesterday, but he said he doesn't feel I need one, and he doesn't want it to get in the way of our relationship. The funny thing was, he brought it up. I told him that I wouldn't mind having a small vibrator or something similar, just to see what it's like. I don't want to just go get one, because I would rather he helped pick it out than I do, because it would be mostly him using it on me. Is there any way I could talk to him again and perhaps convince him? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
As a guy who has been married for 24 years, I perhaps have a bit different perspective. When I was young, I thought I was invincible and the ultimate lover. After all, I had made many girls cum (or at least so they said). Then I got married, and was very happy. However, I learned that my wife thought she could not have an orgasm, and I could not "make" her. We spent many happy years together, but each year out sex life got less and less. Finally, two years ago, we brought toys in, and all of a sudden my wife can cum, and wants sex regularly. I feel guilty for not pursuing this years ago, as it would have been happier for both of us. If he won't, get a toy and learn to use it yourself. Then, slowly and sensuously bring it into your lovemaking, perhaps as a way to get off during some times of the month, or as a way to make him squirm (on his balls or perineum). Then, get him to use it on you, teach him, teach each other, and learn to communicate. It will pay off long term for each of you.