First dates: WHO PAYS?

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First dates: WHO PAYS?

LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
07/20/2012
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mpfm mpfm
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
Whoever does the asking
07/20/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
Whoever does the asking
I've heard that's the new standard.
07/20/2012
Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
My gentlemen training dictates I pay. I have not run into too many that object.
07/20/2012
Scorpionwally Scorpionwally
The male normaly pays
07/20/2012
<3BF <3BF
I think it depends on each situation, who invited who out and such, but normally it's rude for the guy to expect the girl to pay.
07/20/2012
Mwar Mwar
When I was dating, the guy asked, but I was always prepared to pay my share just in case.
07/20/2012
MnK MnK
I usually expect the guy to offer to pay if it's not too expensive, if not I'd be prepared to pay for my share.
07/20/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by LavenderSkies
I was talking to a girlfriend about this not too long ago. Who pays for the first state? Do you take your own portion? Let him pay for everything? Does it depend on the person or tab?
depends on who asks
07/20/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
Whoever does the asking
agreed!
07/20/2012
Beck Beck
I think it's fair to split the bill. I've never been on a date other then with my hubby and that is our money. If I was asked out on a date and I would expect to pay for myself and them the same. I wouldn't accept them paying for my meal unless they truly insisted. Then I would insist on paying for the next one.
07/20/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
Whoever does the asking
Makes sense.
07/20/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Typically whoever does the asking. If it's a more casual quasi-date, splitting it works, but it's usually polite for the person who asked to offer
07/20/2012
Nora29714 Nora29714
Where i'm from the boy does the gentleman thing and pays
07/20/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I think it's totally ok to split, not an individual check. I'll pay for dinner and they can pay for coffee or dessert or something, or vice versa.

I think it's sexist to expect the guy to pay.
07/20/2012
Gracie Gracie
I think the person inviting should pay. However I am always prepared to pay or help pay when I am invited out.
07/21/2012
guard083 guard083
I am a guy and I expect to always pay
07/21/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I think it's usually the person who did the asking - I either go with that, or split it. I'm queer, though, so there are fewer gender role standards to contend with.
07/22/2012
G&L G&L
Usually the guy, but be prepared to pay your half if it comes up.
07/22/2012
Billie Bones Billie Bones
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
Whoever does the asking
I think that this is the best way to go about things. If you want to take someone out, take them out. Gender doesn't have anything to do with that.
07/23/2012
Falsepast Falsepast
Both split it.
Its not fair that the person who asks be forced to pay for both, because the other person willingly agreed.
07/23/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I ALWAYS try to pay for my meal no matter who invited who. I hate having others pay for things
07/23/2012
Rawr4483 Rawr4483
On a first date I expect the man to pay, especially if it was their idea.
07/23/2012
princessss princessss
I think the man should but always offering to pay anyway is a really nice gesture.
07/23/2012
Brittanyx Brittanyx
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
Whoever does the asking
I agree, although I still always offer to pay my half if he's the one who asked.
07/23/2012
nova2014 nova2014
We kind of "fought" on who would pay or even allowing me to pay half, he won and so he paid for the whole night. But we went to get a midnight snack later and I wore him down so I was able to pay
12/06/2012
EdenG EdenG
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
agreed!
agree, but that is some brownie points if the guy still pays and the girl asked him out!
12/07/2012
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