Guys, what are dating turn-offs for you?

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Guys, what are dating turn-offs for you?

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edeneve edeneve
any guy help out there?
09/22/2013
fly1212 fly1212
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 cats can be an assault on the senses and a definite turnoff. Excessive swearing or negativity and constantly refering to your ex are three more unsavory traits.
09/22/2013
imperialyellowdragon imperialyellowdragon
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Originally posted by fly1212
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 ...
a persons ex is a part of them. I would not make it all about your ex but be honest. what is a turn off. if the person has no job. if the person has a very bad credit score. if the person has no goals in life. if the person has no savings for his/her future. also if the person does not know how to budget there money and save. if they cant pay off there credit cards in full every month. this all screams I am not responsible. I am going no where.
11/16/2013
edeneve edeneve
c'mon guys - need more responses here.
11/30/2013
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I think it is not anything different from what turns off a gal. I know this is not a definitive itemized list but...
11/30/2013
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by edeneve
c'mon guys - need more responses here.
This blog page pretty much sums it ALL up:
12 Things Men Hate About Women

In my observation, most men do not like to put up with women who nag non-stop.
11/30/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
turn offs:

poor grammar

chronic indecisiveness

lack of character

no work ethic! and laziness

selfishness

irresponsibility (including financial)

self-absorption

no intellectual curiosity

chronic lateness

poor hygiene

bullying

mean-spirited teasing

unkind to animals!!!!!

bad teeth/bad breath

chronic snorting/sniffling - blow your damn nose and be done with it! (And please God, do not wipe you nose on your hand or pick your nose!!)

smoking

drinking & drugs to excess - I will add the modifier 'frequently' to this because I don't mind someone drinking occasionally till they are buzzed, but I don't much care for drunkenness. I don't like recreational drug use.

being a wet blanket or a chronic whiner/complainer

dismissing me (in any sense!)

poor conversationalist

---wow, I guess I better stop, lol! So, how was that, Edeneve?
11/30/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by fly1212
Extreme anything whether it's political views or personal ideologies. These tend to breed intollerance and an inability to compromise or see the other side. Vegans that think everyone else should be too would be a prime example. More than 2 ...
I didn't want to duplicate this post, but wanted to agree with all of it but the cats I don't care how many pets someone has as long as they are very well cared for and loved!
11/30/2013
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I didn't want to duplicate this post, but wanted to agree with all of it but the cats I don't care how many pets someone has as long as they are very well cared for and loved!
That is one long list, girl!
11/30/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Rossie
That is one long list, girl!
She kept pressing for MORE answers, lol! And I am kind of embarrassed to admit I rattled those off right off the top of my head! But I have been thinking about and discussing this topic recently, so that might have something to do with it.

I guess I could be less specific and just say I am turned off by negativity, mean-spiritedness, immaturity and lack of character. That better?

Oh, I know it said for guys, but what the heck? I decided to write in anyway, so sue me!. Oh yeah, that reminds me, I am turned off by litigiousness, lol!
11/30/2013
Sincerely yours, N Sincerely yours, N
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
turn offs:

poor grammar

chronic indecisiveness

lack of character

no work ethic! and laziness

selfishness

irresponsibility (including financial)

self-absorption

no intellectual ...
I agree with all of these. It's crazy how similar we are haha.
11/30/2013
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
She kept pressing for MORE answers, lol! And I am kind of embarrassed to admit I rattled those off right off the top of my head! But I have been thinking about and discussing this topic recently, so that might have something to do with it.

I ...
You and N can write a new Man's Bible! LOL
12/01/2013
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
turn offs:

poor grammar

chronic indecisiveness

lack of character

no work ethic! and laziness

selfishness

irresponsibility (including financial)

self-absorption

no intellectual ...
I concur, for the most part. I'm perhaps been more tolerant of smoking and drinking though. Oh and by the way, one item that I would add for those women who believe that men are intimidated by intelligence. Please don't pretend to be dumb, it is not an endearing trait. I personally find smart to be very sexy and dumb a turnoff, no matter how pretty the package.
12/01/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by RonLee
I concur, for the most part. I'm perhaps been more tolerant of smoking and drinking though. Oh and by the way, one item that I would add for those women who believe that men are intimidated by intelligence. Please don't pretend to be dumb, ...
Hey, RonLee, nice to see you around!!

I'm allergic to smoke, so that influenced that turn off. I just can't abide mean drunks and that kind of thing is what I mean. That and a life centered around drinking because I can't drink -- yes, allergic to that, too (and very bitter about it, lol).

I am really glad you said that about playing dumb! And I think playing anything is dishonest and why would someone want to have to then hide who they really are for the rest of the relationship? (I considered dishonest as included under the lack of character)

Hey Edeneve, why not ask now for lists of turn ons, too?
12/01/2013
imperialyellowdragon imperialyellowdragon
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Originally posted by edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
for me. my turn off is a movie. I would want to do something to know you. not avoid you.
12/28/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by imperialyellowdragon
for me. my turn off is a movie. I would want to do something to know you. not avoid you.
Good point, but a movie can also stimulate conversation about it later and help break the ice for people who are not sparkling conversationalists, right?

I will add more turn offs:

--Never returning calls or messages. You know, the person you can only speak to if you catch them answering the call or you run into them in person. (In other words, people make time for what, and whomever, is important to them!!!)

--Only interested in talking about himself and never asking any questions about you (other than a quick, "How are you?" with absolutely no follow through. For example: the woman replies, "I am fine now, but I recently was in the hospital" to which the man then says, "Awww" or worse, a and nothing else!!) I thought this was included under dismissiveness in my previous list, however I think this needed it's own place.
03/01/2014
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
So, Edeneve, can we just open this up to all people and relationships and their turn offs? I find this stuff so interesting and fun to read. I know, I already trampled all over the "rules" in the first place by answering as a woman. Oh well, I just couldn't resist! And I also wanted to keep your discussion getting answers because I hate good topics that get buried and few responses.
03/26/2014
edeneve edeneve
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
So, Edeneve, can we just open this up to all people and relationships and their turn offs? I find this stuff so interesting and fun to read. I know, I already trampled all over the "rules" in the first place by answering as a woman. Oh ...
by all means - this is certainly open to everyone & any relationship & their turn-offs.

go ahead everyone, let's hear from you.
03/26/2014
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by edeneve
by all means - this is certainly open to everyone & any relationship & their turn-offs.

go ahead everyone, let's hear from you.
Well, if people want my laundry list (it's almost embarrassingly long and detailed, LOL!), take a gander at my posts above where I run off at the mouth, and I am sorry to say that was primarily off the top of my head! No wonder i am alone, eh? LMAO!
03/26/2014
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
- Bad taste in clothing and culture

(Women in their 20's... not feeling jelly sandals... Jelly sex toys yes... jelly sandals NO! Wear what fits you, I don't want to think If I touch a razor blade to your ass your pants will shoot off and yes yes... I know you have breasts but you don't have to crush them and squeeze them out of your shirt to show me them. I respect you more with them in a nice T-Shirt then a v neck that goes down to your navel.)

- Bad taste in music

(I can respect most music but I cant hack those people who love whatever is popular because its popular. If you say you love Metallica you better fucking believe I am going to ask you about the albums before load.... .

- Bad Breath

(Seriously I don't mind tuna fish but on bread please)

- Inability to hold a conversation

(if we are talking and you dont know about something just tell me you don't know... Don't talk yourself in a hole then I am going to lose my respect for you.)
03/28/2014
TexasBrat TexasBrat
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
turn offs:

poor grammar

chronic indecisiveness

lack of character

no work ethic! and laziness

selfishness

irresponsibility (including financial)

self-absorption

no intellectual ...
Ditto.
07/21/2014
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by TexasBrat
Ditto.
@TexasBrat: Clearly, you are a discerning individual with good taste! It's nice that you and Sincerely Yours, N agree with me. I was afraid after listing all that that I was going to get reamed for being intolerant or something, lol!

@ The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secr etary: LMAO, good calls!!!
07/28/2014
NJ casanova NJ casanova
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
I personally like aggressive women, They do the chasing.
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options and they don't want any of them, WTF)
3. My Ex would get pissed off , for No apparent reason, but won't let me help, tell me whats wrong, fix it??

Thats why she's my ex, LOL. Now all her co-workers call me up
10/21/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by NJ casanova
I personally like aggressive women, They do the chasing.
1. I don't like subtle signs, if you want it come and get it
2. Girls that can't make a decision, (they're hungry but don't know what they want, you give them 10 options ...
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.

Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?

Co workers... ahh, better avoid them. too easy to share info or cause problems.
Oohh, maybe she told them how great your were in _ _ d. Yes my hangman game. This one is easssy.
10/22/2015
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.

Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?

Co ...
OH. you cynic....u are a pushover for these types of women , eh?

Yea...that hangman was easy.
10/23/2015
NJ casanova NJ casanova
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
agreed... on most of your list. Girls that can't make decisions. not ok if I'm straving, but if she was super cute.. well, they always get away with murder.

Won't tell you what's wrong ? Do they ever ?

Co ...
She was TOO beautiful and I knew it from the start My Fav are spanish girls (most aggressive)/FYI- I'm white. Never seen a spanish girl as HOT as her, not even movies stars, hotter than eva mendes/longoria, sophia vegara, jennifer lopez. She actually looks alot like "Niki Skyler" my buddy sent me a vid and I thought it was her until I got a good pic of the ass/tits, my girl had less top/more bottom I didn't care if she was treating me like sh*t.

As for the Co-workers... She was a bartender as a strip club, so when we broke up, all the dancer's I knew put their #s in my phone. I guess they were getting mean to her,She actually said "So are you going to get your girls to beat me up?" She got fired, so I go up when I know the girl(flavor) I want to see is working I made a youtube playlist to get psyched. It's ALOT less stressful, even thou I still miss that b*tch
10/23/2015
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by NJ casanova
She was TOO beautiful and I knew it from the start My Fav are spanish girls (most aggressive)/FYI- I'm white. Never seen a spanish girl as HOT as her, not even movies stars, hotter than eva mendes/longoria, sophia vegara, jennifer lopez. She ...
Hey NJ c, sounds and appears you fit in well with the EF community. Why not complete your profile so members can follow you. Sounds like you have a lot to contribute.

We ahh, I will be your first !
10/23/2015
Inquisitor Inquisitor
stupidity, ignorance, self absorption, chronic laziness, habitual indecisiveness, bossy, selfishness, drug use (excluding prescription), excessive drinking, self entitlement, smokers, constant comparison to an ex boyfriend and a few other traits I can't think of right now.
10/24/2015
Thong man Thong man
Quote:
Originally posted by edeneve
in a straight couple situation, what are dating turn offs for you?
Smoking
10/25/2015
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