My husband and I had to deal with quite a bit of disapproval when we got together. There was an age difference, I was about to head off to college, he was in the middle of a divorce. It was complicated, and tough to deal with, but it made us grow.
The attitudes of some of my family members has not changed much, but I feel confident chalking that up to immaturity. I was pretty stubborn and opinionated at that age, so I'm not surprised they are too. It's painful, because it has really hindered the kind of relationship I want to have with my family, but I am keeping positive because I know that time does make a difference. I just have to be patient. I'm also lucky because I have the relationship of my dreams with my in-laws, and their support and love makes the rough parts much easier to handle.
We have new social circles where we are happy and all of our friends are constantly nagging us to stop being so dang cute
, and we are even happily reconnecting with some people that were at the heart of the disapproving posse.
We just knew from the moment we met that there was something special. Something special enough to make two people who were independently terrified of disapproval and confrontation willing to take it all on and more.