How would you go about meeting someone off a dating site?

Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
I'm currently on a quest to do some dating for awhile and nervous about meeting someone off the internet. How would you do it, and any other advice?
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I wouldn't!
2
Very public place.
46
Somewhat secluded place.
Secluded.
Total votes: 48 (48 voters)
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06/11/2012
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deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Upyourreviews
I'm currently on a quest to do some dating for awhile and nervous about meeting someone off the internet. How would you do it, and any other advice?
Give someone relevant information or leave it behind in your place just in case, cross your fingers though
06/11/2012
remember.me remember.me
I've met many people from online. A public place is ALWAYS a good plan. Make sure somebody knows where you are and if you meet and decide to go elsewhere, take a moment to call & let that somebody know about your change of plans. And obviously, don't tell them your last name or where you live. I've never had a problem though and most people are very nice! Just be yourself
06/11/2012
Peggi Peggi
We didn't technically meet on a DATING site but we did meet online, and then I drove to my hubby's house. Technically, I drove to his STREET and he came out to make sure I wasn't a psycho and vice versa, and then we hung out at his place.
06/11/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
My boyfriend and I met on a dating site. We messaged off and on for a few weeks and then went out for coffee. I like coffee as it is a short interaction. Like a predate date to figure out if it is working.
06/11/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I truly think it depends on how much you've talked with the person. I met my husband online and we talked every day for over a month before we met. He came to my house, picked me up and we went to lunch and a movie. It was great. It truly depends.
06/11/2012
Talena Talena
I would make first date in a public place, like a restaurant or a mall or something similar. Then if you feel comfy, it's up to you.
06/11/2012
klucas88 klucas88
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Originally posted by Upyourreviews
I'm currently on a quest to do some dating for awhile and nervous about meeting someone off the internet. How would you do it, and any other advice?
public
06/11/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
meet in a public place, my mom has met tons of guys off the internet she is with her bf now that she met off the internet. its not a bad thing to do people are doing it all the time now its just so easier. i met my gf off the internet sorta... i went right to her house and met her tho but i wouldnt do that if i were you lol.
06/11/2012
britanny0620 britanny0620
I've only met a few people off the internet (that weren't friends-of-friends), and we always met in public places. The only time that might be considered an exception was when I met my now ex-girlfriend, we did meet in public but I was picking her up to come back to my house. So even then I still met her in public.
06/11/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I would be weary of it, but I would meet in a very public place.
06/11/2012
Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
All great comments. Anyone have any bad experiences?
06/11/2012
Peggi Peggi
I've never had one, but a friend of mine had a bad experience from meeting someone online. She met him in a public place, at the mall, and they walked around, did some shopping, ate at the food court. It was all fine, except that they just didn't click like that, she liked him but only as a friend. He got mad when she told him this and he keyed her car.

Obviously though, she was there, standing right in front of him when he went off on her and did it, so she did press charges and it was repaired, but it could've been so much worse if they weren't in a public place I think. If he really had the chance he might've done worse for all we know!

But then again, she also met him only a couple days after they began talking on OkCupid
06/11/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
I've never had a bad experience with online dating, although I tend to be pretty picky about who I go on dates with, so that could be a factor. As a matter of fact, both of the relationships I've been in and have started online, so it definitely can be safe and doable. Like everyone else has said, go somewhere where there are other people around--personally, I find this is good for a first date regardless, since it gives it a more casual feel. I like going for coffee or drinks--there's no definite time frame, so you can shorten the date or drag it out depending on how it's going.
06/11/2012
Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
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Originally posted by pasdechat
I've never had a bad experience with online dating, although I tend to be pretty picky about who I go on dates with, so that could be a factor. As a matter of fact, both of the relationships I've been in and have started online, so it ... More
I actually met my exhusband online and he was the only one I went out with on there, and then my last guy I've been with for 6 years found me on Myspace. So I have a LITTLE experience but nothing like internet dating is like now.
06/12/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by Upyourreviews
I'm currently on a quest to do some dating for awhile and nervous about meeting someone off the internet. How would you do it, and any other advice?
A very public place and I would tell a lot of people where I am so if anything goes wrong people know who I'm with
06/12/2012
Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
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Originally posted by sweetpea12
A very public place and I would tell a lot of people where I am so if anything goes wrong people know who I'm with
So far it's not going well enough for me to even meet up with anyone...
06/13/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Make sure it's a public meeting spot.
06/13/2012
CindyH CindyH
in a public place were ifeel safe
06/13/2012
Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
I really don't feel safe anywhere public...
06/13/2012
MaeGal MaeGal
I would probably never do this, just incase they somehow followed me home or what not.
But if I ever did, a very public place, for sure.
06/13/2012
nosrslylol nosrslylol
I met someone in a very public place, worked out fine.
06/13/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Plan a public first date, restaurant and walk in a park or something. After that, it's up to you. Good solution is to have a route to drive that's the opposite direction from your house if you're nervous about being followed.
06/13/2012
married with children married with children
I dont think I would use one.
06/14/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
It's safest to meet them in a public place.
06/14/2012
GONE! GONE!
I would do it in a public place. Usually I meet online friends somewhere like a place where there's a ton of stuff to do and lots of people around, like Telegraph Avenue in Berkeley.
06/14/2012
jjdd jjdd
Have them meet you somewhere public and populated (not a quiet park). Have an escape plan. Tell a friend who, what, where, etc. If you feel uncomfortable bail. And most of all, just keep it casual and easy so as not to put too much pressure. It feels really awkward at first but it gets easier. For what it's worth, I haven't had any bad experiences with meeting guys from online.
06/26/2012
SadoMas SadoMas
public
08/10/2012
bettle590 bettle590
I would definitely keep it public, meet at a coffee shop or something. I like to keep it specific because when a guy says "wanna meet up and chill?" It tends to mean "wanna come back to my place?"
08/19/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
public place for sure!
08/19/2012
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