I'm happy and Unhappy with my boyfriend?

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I'm happy and Unhappy with my boyfriend?

kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
ok so been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and I find him smart,funny,trustworth y,loyal everything I like..I don't really feel satisfied in bed though I don't like that he lasts a couple minutes 15 minutes would be nice...Right now buying a bunch of products off eden fantasys sounds more satisfying to me. I think my boyfriend is attractive,but wish he was alot more..I couldn't date someone I found unatractive because I wouldn't want to kiss them or anything. I'm mostly dating him because he treats me well and has been there for me alot(not money,don't ask him to buy me stuff) but I wish I could have a hot,more toned guy that lasts longer in bed. I know its better to stay with him than fuck some guy hot trim bigger guy who lasts longer.I've only slept with my current guy but why am I feeling like this? Could it be because I'm depressed and just don't want to be alone and know he will always be there?
07/05/2010
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El-Jaro El-Jaro
sounds like it's a good time for a sit down. Sometimes one issue can disguise itself as another.
07/05/2010
Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
ok so been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and I find him smart,funny,trustworth y,loyal everything I like..I don't really feel satisfied in bed though I don't like that he lasts a couple minutes 15 minutes would be nice...Right now ...
It seems like you have a great guy, and like JR said, you should talk to him.
07/05/2010
Blinker Blinker
Really, sweetie, the only way you can figure this out is to sit down and talk to him, and figure out where you are in your life. It all starts with what you want, and what will make YOU happy.
07/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
sounds like it's a good time for a sit down. Sometimes one issue can disguise itself as another.
I think I've gotten bored even though he's great. well I didn't see anything to talk about I can't ask him to last longer in bed because he just doesn't last long. I'm not going to tell him I'm feeling bored right now.
07/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
It seems like you have a great guy, and like JR said, you should talk to him.
even though he's not the most attractive or exciting I think I know what's wrong. I'm depressed and unhappy in my life so that makes everything else seem more blah. Our conflicting work schedules and having no money to buy sex toys doesn't help. Having bills and a list of things I really want but can't buy probly gets me frustrated. Being sick 24/7 with my digestive condition not being able to leave the house and so bloated all the time I look prego. The money issue is because I can't work many hours I'm jerked away from my computer all day in the bathroom and feel much better sitting down than moving around so I make a couple hundred every 2 weeks.at work I get angry or down because I wish I was sitting down while I'm at work.

um how can I delete the post above this? my reply to Jr as its no longer relevant and I think it sounds dumb now.
07/05/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
even though he's not the most attractive or exciting I think I know what's wrong. I'm depressed and unhappy in my life so that makes everything else seem more blah. Our conflicting work schedules and having no money to buy sex toys ...
I'm sorry to read all that!

Just remember:
"This, too, shall pass". What is a big deal now probably won't be a big deal in 6 months.

For the posts: you can always change/edit your post IF it's the last post on the thread. If someone posts after you, it's up there.
07/05/2010
Envy Envy
I think you guys should sit and talk. Also, things can get boring if you do the same thing over and over again. You say he can't last in bed, so what about making him finish first once, then because of the period he takes to recoop he can focus on you and maybe he can even come a 2nd time, and due to the period to recoop he'll take longer. Also no one says you HAVE to finish with PIV sex, that's just one method. He can finish you with toys, you can give him a handjob until he's done, etc etc etc. I think mixing it up more might help and get the idea of 'traditional' out of your head.

But yes, you two do need to talk and see what you can do about it.
07/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
I'm sorry to read all that!

Just remember:
"This, too, shall pass". What is a big deal now probably won't be a big deal in 6 months.

For the posts: you can always change/edit your post IF it's the last post ...
yea some of it, but not the feeling sick part been going on for 5 years everyday. but enough of that...yea in 6 monthes I should have a couple things I really want but at the cost of not saving money..anyway what should I do if I have a list of stuff to buy and can't decide which first because some are equally important in my opinon..picked out a $200 fancy printer for all my needs then I got eden fantasy products and I can't just pick 1 and be happy lol,how can I publish my wish list then u can see tons of stuff to "spice it up" lots of variety. then this valtz 4 drawer locking cd/dvd holder is $100 really wish to find,clean everything up so I can finally move on to organizing my bedroom,and clean well to then be able to finally after years be able to decorate this room I spend 90% of my time in is so boring and unorganized just don't have it in me to really make it spotless,lol and now especially since I first need to buy stuff to organize. I can put cds or dvds lying around into a big ziplock bag or box until then I guess already a piles of boxes to sort..oops got off topic,sorry if its timi,but you get the idea about where my frustrations come from I guess.
07/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Envy
I think you guys should sit and talk. Also, things can get boring if you do the same thing over and over again. You say he can't last in bed, so what about making him finish first once, then because of the period he takes to recoop he can focus ...
PIV? or how about have a vibrator standing by for when he's done then I'll just get that out..or a little vibrator before and after
07/05/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
PIV? or how about have a vibrator standing by for when he's done then I'll just get that out..or a little vibrator before and after
PIV = Penis In Vagina.

I think mixing it up with a toys and fingers and mouths is a great great idea.

Make it more about the journey and less about the destination
07/05/2010
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by Victoria
PIV = Penis In Vagina.

I think mixing it up with a toys and fingers and mouths is a great great idea.

Make it more about the journey and less about the destination
^ Exactly this. It's what I meant, explore and stop worrying so much about the finishing. Besides, after you're done, who says you can't go for round two? Or three?
07/05/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Envy
^ Exactly this. It's what I meant, explore and stop worrying so much about the finishing. Besides, after you're done, who says you can't go for round two? Or three?
no round 2 or 3 because of conflicting work schedules and him living out of town and being tired after work when he comes to see me..but I can try new things with toys and do a variety of things..in a few monthes after I can afford to buy a few things.
07/06/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
ok so been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and I find him smart,funny,trustworth y,loyal everything I like..I don't really feel satisfied in bed though I don't like that he lasts a couple minutes 15 minutes would be nice...Right now ...
anyway thank u all. I'm not in that bad of a mood since I posted the discussion. I am close to my monthly and I remember the day I posted this discussion, I had also been fighting with my boyfriend that day but not about the things I posted
07/06/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
ok so been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and I find him smart,funny,trustworth y,loyal everything I like..I don't really feel satisfied in bed though I don't like that he lasts a couple minutes 15 minutes would be nice...Right now ...
I recommend having a sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him how you are feeling. If you are honest it is always better. He probably has no idea how you are feeling and would appreciate the feedback. Maybe he cums early because he doesn't know you'd rather do it for longer. Also, about the whole fit thing. Maybe you guys could join a gym or work towards eating healthier. Remember looks fade- and good guys can be hard to find.
Good luck!
07/07/2010
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by fatesrelease
I recommend having a sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him how you are feeling. If you are honest it is always better. He probably has no idea how you are feeling and would appreciate the feedback. Maybe he cums early because he doesn't ...
no he is a really picky eater and plus he lives out of town over an hour away in a tiny place with a gas station and not much else no gym,he won't exercise anyway..we have conflicting work schedules..and it has to stay that way because his has to be diffrent because he lives out of town and when he is off at 7pm he needs to get home..animals to take care of help his mom

It's all complicated I have digestive issues everday that keep me ill and in the toilet many times a day before work so i work 5-11pm 5 days a week. we both live at our parents house and rent in this town is way to high for us, plus he has bills he has to pay every month,debts and things,

I can't live at his parent's house full of people and only 1 bathroom plus its haunted (not going there) and I can't afford a car or gas so I don't drive myself to work. I don't have a sex life personal problems,conflicting work schedules,then my monthly comes up and grosses him out it really turns him off. I've given up on a sex life.
07/09/2010
fatesrelease fatesrelease
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
no he is a really picky eater and plus he lives out of town over an hour away in a tiny place with a gas station and not much else no gym,he won't exercise anyway..we have conflicting work schedules..and it has to stay that way because his has to ...
Seems like there are a lot of things going on and even if there is nothing he can do about his problems the both of you need to sit down and talk about the problems revolving your relationship. As far as what you've said it kind of seems like you've given up on the relationship.
I'm sorry I couldn't be more of a help but I think you deserve to feel special all the time and not when it's convenient for him.
Good luck!
07/09/2010
Envy Envy
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Originally posted by fatesrelease
Seems like there are a lot of things going on and even if there is nothing he can do about his problems the both of you need to sit down and talk about the problems revolving your relationship. As far as what you've said it kind of seems like ...
^ I am starting to agree with this.

You need to sit and think: are these really REASONS why this isn't working? Or rather are they EXCUSES for why it's not working? You're being passive about this whole thing, at least from what I can see.

You can at least see your guy. Mine lives across the country and I've only seen him 2 weeks total out of 3+ years of a relationship, so really you should count your blessings...

Just my 2 cents, not trying to offend.
07/09/2010
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