I tried it with limited success and a lot of heartache and then met someone online who I've been with three years now. Without the free online dating site(s) I never would have met her.
I LOVE HER DEARLY!
Like Dan Savage says... "Every relationship will fail, until one doesn't."
I've met most of the people I've dated online...I was in a three year relationship with someone I met on a dating site. My current boyfriend and I have also been together for three years now and I met him through an ad on Craigslist, of all places.
I tried it for a month or 2 and had a few fun dates but I got tired of meeting people who didn't match their profile (ie: 10 years older/ inches shorter/etc. than their profile said) or people with odd mannerisms. I quit after the guy I was talking to on the phone asked me why my zip code didn't match my hometown. I was creeped out. For safety reasons I told him the metro area and he made me feel like I was being tracked. I quit then and after that ended up meeting my boyfriends at the gym. The internet is not a bad place to meet people but I think you have to go in with low expectations and keep your eyes trained on other options too.
Not ALL the people I met were losers, but.. the vast majority. I met one fellow who I never dated but has been my close friend for some years now, and that's great. But otherwise, not a whole hell of a lot of success meeting cool folk online.
I have found a few dates, nothing amazing. The last one flew in from Florida to meet me, he called me three times on his trip home (midnight, 4:00am and about 6:00 am) I suppose he didn't get the reaction he wanted from my sleep addled brain because I didn't hear from him again after that nor did he answer my IMs.
the one before that molested me, and I am still coming to terms with it.
the first one was... kind of a dweeb, we had a mutual bitching session and, well, there is only room for one bitch in a relationship with me, and I am it.
I may have a date for next weekend, we have each had a bad experience and have already agreed to keep it public. I will have to see if he actually contacts me again.
Internet dating sites are a good way to find out what you might have in common and discuss deal-breakers and common goals before even meeting. There is a high ratio of flakiness, no-shows, etc. The same as there would be akin to walking up to people in a bar that you might like to date and say "wanna go out with me?"
Dating is a bit of numbers game. Like shopping for clothes, you throw a lot of things in your cart that might a) not fit b) not look as good on you as it did on the hanger c) be more expensive/needy than is in your budget at the moment. Hopefully you leave the store with something nice. If you only try on one outfit per store, you will get burned out on shopping!
That said... I date a lot. To extend the metaphor, I'm a shopaholic. Thank goddess for internet shopping.
I met my guy online unintentionally. It's working quite well, but we're still long distance with few chances of visits.
As a gay man, online is one of the few ways for me to meet men, in a smallish town. I spend a lot of time online, anyway, so why not look for love there? I have stopped actively searching for a boyfriend online, since I realized that looking too hard ends badly for me. But I have met several guys through the internet, one of them I dated for a few months. I think it can work well, as long as you meet in a public place, and are smart about safety.
Have you tried internet dating and if so do you find that it is hard to find someone that way? I have a ton of friends that belong to several sites, yet have not found the one.
i didn't have too much success when i tried it, but i also think it depends on what site you use. my room mate used plentyoffish.com & the few dates she went on didn't work out (of course she also doesn't get the concept that just b/c a guy goes on a date w/ you & you both hit it off pretty well, doesn't mean he's gonna stop dating other girls or choose you over them... he just met you for god's sake). my sister used either match.com or e-harmony (i forget which) & is in the best relationship she's ever been in, even though it's only been a few months so far.