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Xomandypantsxo Xomandypantsxo
I met this guy online and we have been talking for about 5 months. We live 15 hours away and have not met in person yet. Our only means of communication are through texts, calls, and skype dates. I know that you cant truly fall in love with someone that you have never met, but i do feel we have a connection physically and mentally. I have recently been thinking of breaking it off with this person, but i cant stop thinking about the "what if's". I also realize that going from talking to this person everyday for 5 months to not at all will break my heart. Does anyone have any advice?
01/07/2011
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VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Well, first of all you haven't met physically so it would only be emotional trauma that you would be going through. And not trauma in the sense of it will destroy your life forever. It's trauma in the sense that yes, it will suck and you'll be upset about it for a while, but if it's not meant to be, then it just isn't.

I've been through plenty of online relationships to know how that feels and breaking up over the internet isn't any easier than breaking it off with someone you've spent a lot of physical time with. The fact is that you have invested your time, feelings, and emotions into someone/something and it's not going to be easy to just break it off like that.

There are always "what if's" in life. Life is far too short, though, to worry about those and to continue on with something that isn't fulfilling you or making you completely happy. If you feel it's what's best, then it's what's best for you. And you are all that matters to you. This person will move on, you'll move on, and most likely it will be for the better.

Good luck.
01/07/2011
Xomandypantsxo Xomandypantsxo
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Well, first of all you haven't met physically so it would only be emotional trauma that you would be going through. And not trauma in the sense of it will destroy your life forever. It's trauma in the sense that yes, it will suck and ... More
You are totally right. And the sucky thing is that deep down i know that this guy could probably care less about having a relationship with me because he obviously is attractive and talks about going out with "friends" all the time. i kinda feel like he knows that he has me, but is free to do whatever he wants. And I have also caught him in a couple lies...and lies are one thing that you need no part of in an online relationship.
01/07/2011
VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Then there's really no reason to put yourself through this. Ugh, sounds like a guy I dated and almost married about two years ago. He'd lie to me and, eventually, I found out that he was lying and to what magnitude. It sounds like you'd be much better off without him, hon.
01/07/2011
Xomandypantsxo Xomandypantsxo
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Then there's really no reason to put yourself through this. Ugh, sounds like a guy I dated and almost married about two years ago. He'd lie to me and, eventually, I found out that he was lying and to what magnitude. It sounds like ... More
Thanks so much, it has been bugging me for so long, and I think im actually ready to do it! Thanks for all your help
01/07/2011
NawlinsDawlin NawlinsDawlin
I agree with Vieuz. Especially if you have already caught him in a lie then he probably isn't ready to make any type of commitment. Good luck!
01/09/2011
BadgersRose BadgersRose
I hope this has turned out well for you. Trust and honesty are the most important things in a relationship so I'd agree that breaking it off would be the best thing so you don't get hurt in the long run.
03/29/2011
CaliGirl CaliGirl
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Originally posted by Xomandypantsxo
I met this guy online and we have been talking for about 5 months. We live 15 hours away and have not met in person yet. Our only means of communication are through texts, calls, and skype dates. I know that you cant truly fall in love with someone ... More
You need to just go and meet in person. After that you will know.
06/25/2012
Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
I knew my boyfriend online for 2 years before we met in person. we were 21 hours away from one another... and yes you can fall in love with out meeting someone. we met in person and moved together 4 months later (it was costing to much to visit all the time)
my advice is dont ever give up its hard. I always said we will never ever meet in person he always said yes we will, give it time it will happen when its met too happen.
06/25/2012
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