Have you been in an open relationship before?

sktb0007 sktb0007
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
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Yes I have
32  (41%)
No I havent
44  (56%)
I would like to
2  (3%)
Total votes: 78
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08/02/2011
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I haven't and am not a person that would be comfortable in one. I did have an ex-fiancee' that must have thought we were, however.
08/02/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
I don't think I would be comfortable in one.
08/02/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No way I could handle the drama or divided loyalties.
08/02/2011
married with children married with children
never have, and do not care too.
08/04/2011
Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
Yes, but still with restrictions. My ex and I were sharing our future, but we allowed each other any short term trysts along the way. No divided loyalties, really.
08/07/2011
Ansley Ansley
Of course they swear by it, it works for them. And those it didn't work for will most likely tell you to run for the hills if the suggestion is made.

Been there, done that. I don't and will never trust anyone enough to allow them to get close to what my man and I share. It's just that simple. The open relationship was with him and someone we both thought we knew extremely well. To call it a clusterfuck is putting it mildly. It's also not a joke when I say that I am definitely emotionally scarred because of the experience.
08/07/2011
Peggi Peggi
Quote:
Originally posted by sktb0007
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
Up until recently I was in an open relationship, I'd say it was for about 10 years, maybe more? I'm 23 (it started with the cute "lets hold hands" relationships) and up until my current relationship I very much enjoyed it. There were no issues with jealousy because in these relationships you learn to manage your time, and everyone was happy. But, my current boyfriend doesn't like to share, which is fine by me, because I am very happy with the way things are
08/17/2011
sarki sarki
No I haven't and not sure I could but I find the subject interesting
08/17/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Never. I don't believe in it.
08/17/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by sktb0007
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
I love my open relationships! It was hard work to get here but this is a great place to be.
08/17/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
No way I could handle the drama or divided loyalties.
LOL there can be some pretty awful drama, No doubt!
08/17/2011
daveysgirl daveysgirl
not for me.
08/17/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
Not one that I was aware of at the time! Lol. My partner and I don't go for that at all. Were in a totally (TOTALLY) monogamous relationship, by our own choice.
08/31/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
Nope, that type of relationship wouldn't work for me.
08/31/2011
Liz2 Liz2
Also been there, done that. Relationship involved myself, my boyfriend and a girlfriend. It got kinda weird as my girlfriend fell in love with me and wanted us to live together, including her boyfriend who was actually a cover for her sexual identity (poor guy). We never did live together but the drama and the emotions were overwhelming, esp. when I said, I will always have a man in my life.
I was totally drained, exhausted and frustrated by the experience.
Will I ever be with a women again? Probably....but no way with all this drama and intensity.
08/31/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
It's been a while, but yes. I also dated a married couple once and there was a degree of openness there.
08/31/2011
indiglo indiglo
No, an open relationship is not something I would be comfortable with. I need that one on one loyalty.
08/31/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
No. I wouldn't feel comfortable in an open relationship.
09/02/2011
PussyPurr PussyPurr
I was in a poly relationship with a married couple. It worked out okay at the time but didn't last, and it wasn't something I would have carried on long term. It was very enjoyable at the time as the wife and I were good friends, and she was a very femme/caretaking kind which I love.

I highly doubt I'd do it again, but like I've learned through the years...never say never!
09/02/2011
CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
I've been doing open relationships for the past few years and it's definitely what's right for me at this point in my life and I'm very very happy with it.
09/03/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
Worst experience of my life. Never again.
09/03/2011
Jon S Jon S
no and dont want too
09/03/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i've had a couple and i'm a little bit too much on the jealous side and kind of lazy (it takes hard working people to do that!). but i know some very happy people who have open relationships so it works out differently for everyone.
09/03/2011
systematicweasel systematicweasel
I'm not in an open relationship and haven't been in one. I'm not sure how I'd feel if I were in one tbh.
09/03/2011
Isreah Isreah
I was in a polyamorous relationship for about 6 months, but it just did not work out. I personally am not too comfortable with being in an open relationship.
09/03/2011
Anonymous.Brunette Anonymous.Brunette
I think it depends, I'm not the jealous type, but still....
I'm not sure.
09/04/2011
RonLee RonLee
Many years ago I was, with that particular partner it felt right.
I'm now in a monogamous relationship that's working quite well for both of us.
09/04/2011
Antipova Antipova
The majority of my relationships have been open, and my partners and I felt comfortable and loved, and everything worked fine as long as everyone was honest with him/herself, and each other.

There was one man who got his feelings hurt, and I'm still not sure whether I should blame myself or not---he told me that he was okay with everything, repeatedly, but I could see that he was trying to fool himself. I let him be his own judge about when to leave, but he definitely tried to convince himself that he was okay for much longer than was necessary, and he wound up quite hurt. I feel really badly about the whole situation with him.

But for the other partners over the years---basically if you have the capacity to be honest with yourself, and you are a)not instinctively very jealous and b)able to discuss and work through any jealousy that does crop up in spite of your usual nature---lovely and enjoyable.
09/04/2011
XzombehxbearzX XzombehxbearzX
Quote:
Originally posted by sktb0007
Im just curious as Ive known a few people who do this... I don't think I ever could, but the few people I know swear by it..
me and my fiance both have commitment issues so were in a open relationship on mutual decision
09/19/2011
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