telling your number

Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
do you tell someone you are dating how many people you have slept with? at what point into dating do you tell them? Do you want to know how many people they have been with? Does it matter?
03/19/2012
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Rossie Rossie
No, I don't think it's necessary to tell your date about that. My husband of 19 years doesn't know exactly how many guys I've slept with, and I don't want to know about his history neither; I know most other EFers prefer to spill their life history to their partners, but that's not how I want it.
03/19/2012
Pixel Pixel
Nope. None of my current partners know my exact number, and I don't think they need to. I do not want to know their numbers either, as it really doesn't matter to me.
03/19/2012
bsgs bsgs
my wife and i told each other our numbers about a year ago...i kinda wish we hadnt though
03/19/2012
wetone123 wetone123
No, that's something best kept to yourself in my opinion.
03/19/2012
underHim underHim
I think it is something that you need to be open and honest about in any serious relationship. I do not believe in keeping anything from your partner. They should have the right to know and make the decision if they are ok with it. If they are not, do you really want to be with someone that would not accept the honest you and would you really want to keep a secret from the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
03/20/2012
JessCee JessCee
Nope, I've never told anyone (except for a private poll here on Eden... which still doesn't count, I don't think, LOL)

Anyway, I'm not going to be defined by how many partners I've had, so the "honest me" doesn't have anything to do with how many men I've slept with. Now, if asked, I will not lie, but I would let him know that I don't think that's any of his concern. There's not really a reason for my man to ask me that question anyway, he is perfectly fine that we're together and happy, and has no desire to bring up my past.

IMO that's a question a high school boy asks a girl, or an insecure man asks his woman.
03/20/2012
sktb0007 sktb0007
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
No, I don't think it's necessary to tell your date about that. My husband of 19 years doesn't know exactly how many guys I've slept with, and I don't want to know about his history neither; I know most other EFers prefer to spill ... More
I don't think it's necessary either.
03/20/2012
Elnoa Elnoa
I try to be clear about it. If they are the type of person who would find it reprehensible, I would like to know that upfront so I can quit wasting my time.
03/20/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I've told people I've dated, but since I've only been with 3 people it's not a very dramatic conversation. My ex just come sup occasionally.
06/06/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
It doesn't really matter. I haven't been with many people, if they ask I'll tell them. I've only been with 3.
06/06/2012
tA tA
Not really. I don't see the point and my number is pretty non-existent for the most part.
06/06/2012
reinkaos reinkaos
its not something expected of anyone, but my wife and i had a conversation before we were married that brought it up and we both know, it didnt change anything
06/06/2012
friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
why in the world would that be something you'd just tell someone just because you're dating. why should they care? why should they know?? i don't think this is necessary information for anyone to have.
11/14/2013
edeneve edeneve
only current or most recent activity interests me. primarily for STDs & STIs info.
11/18/2013
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