With my partner living overseas, it kind of works like this... whoever flies in doesn't pay for food on dates, because they're already paying for the flight. But, for more ordinary situations? I don't expect my date to pay for my own meal. I always offer to pay, and I'm not offended at all if my date chooses to let me pay.
When I'm working, I offer to pay my half... so he doesn't think I owe him a damn thing.
I'm reluctant to go on dates since I'm jobless and always ensure he means he's covering it beforehand, so we're not stuck in an awkward situation.
So you go on a mutually agreed date. Who pays? Call me old-fashioned, but if I'm on a date and the submissive half, I expect the more dominant person to take charge of the check....
The man better at least offer or I'll think he's rude. I usually will go out of my way to try and pay for my own things everytime, even though my partner and I have been together 6 years, I still do that. However, if he can't even be a gentleman and offer, then I'd assume he wouldn't even be gentleman enough to open my door. Which by the way, my partner does do both every single day. He was just telling me tonight to stay in the car, he wanted to come "get" me out. He always insists on paying when we go out.
I'm in a long distance relationship and basically whoever's visiting gets treated and it's worked out pretty nice. When we both go home from college then we each pay for an aspect of the date, like one day he'd pay for the movie and I'd pay for the dinner and the next day we'd switch it up.