Being attracted to someone who isnt your partner

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Being attracted to someone who isnt your partner

Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
Has anyone else delt with this problem?
I met this guy online who lives about 10mins away from me.
i'm attracted to him on so many levels and it freaks me out. I would never cheat on my boyfriend but i cant help but feel something.
am i wrong? what do i do?
05/26/2011
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CrystaCat CrystaCat
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Nessa
Has anyone else delt with this problem?
I met this guy online who lives about 10mins away from me.
i'm attracted to him on so many levels and it freaks me out. I would never cheat on my boyfriend but i cant help but feel something.
am i ...
Your human thats all. I am married but I have felt major attractions to other guys it's normal. That is sort of like a guy that gets turned on by a sexy woman. Don't force it, but what happens, happens.
12/27/2011
CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Nessa
Has anyone else delt with this problem?
I met this guy online who lives about 10mins away from me.
i'm attracted to him on so many levels and it freaks me out. I would never cheat on my boyfriend but i cant help but feel something.
am i ...
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Ditto to CrystaCat. Your a human being. You got here pre-programed to be attracted to other people in both sexual and non-sexual ways. There was an interesting study a few years back you can find on the net that talks about why people are attracted to one another. It goes so far back and deep inside you that no matter how pure and innocent you think you are part of your physical make up automatically triggers it. You will always as a woman look for what you identify as the best male breeding stock based on certain physical characteristics you don't even know you are looking at. Then it goes to your perception of this persons ability to be a protector and an alpha to you. Guys do the same thing with us chicks. In my opinion - but remember i am a bit of a wild sexual freak so you probably should ask someone else - that thinking it and feeling it isn't wrong and you can't beat your internal programing. It only becomes an issue if it causes a problem in your relationship or you decide to act on it or dwell on it to the point it hurts your boyfriend. So before you do that check yourself twice (I.E. Give that some serious thought and understand the implications) and do the right thing for you.
12/28/2011
Jaimes Jaimes
It's totally natural, but your actions on that feeling are really up to you and the state of your relationship. I've had this sort of thing happen to me, and my solution was to cut off communication. I took myself out of the situation to solve the problem. New is always fun and exciting, but it may take some soul-searching to decide if the feeling is more than that, and perhaps worth pursuing. But hey, whichever way you go, hugs!!!

It's a tough position to be in. I feel for you.
12/28/2011
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