Sadly we are complete opposites sexually. He is very vanilla while I am very kinky and into BDSM and fetish. Compromise is something that we are constantly working at. We try to meet somewhere in the middle but it can be hard given that he actually turned off by even light BDSM and fetish and I find it a turn off if he is not comfortable with something.
Mostly our key to making this work is communication and honesty. Both of us were up front and honest from the very beginning so it was not a shock about the sexual incompatibility.
Our sex drives are also drastically different with me having the higher one. Masturbation comes in handy with that one. hence my nice collection of toys.
Yes! We talk about what we like, to see if the other likes it or will help to make the other one have their fantasy. Like if I want something, he'll do it, and then later if he wants something I'll do it. We both have our limits, but so far they're very much the same
I'm pretty happy about this: My boyfriend and I have the exact same level of libid, we get horny at the same time, we share a lot of the same kinks, it's pretty great. My previous boyfriend didn't like sex or physical contact, aside from handholding, and I have a high sex drive, so that relationship was doomed the moment it began. I'm pretty happy with my current situation.