Sadly we are complete opposites sexually. He is very vanilla while I am very kinky and into BDSM and fetish. Compromise is something that we are constantly working at. We try to meet somewhere in the middle but it can be hard given that he actually turned off by even light BDSM and fetish and I find it a turn off if he is not comfortable with something.
Mostly our key to making this work is communication and honesty. Both of us were up front and honest from the very beginning so it was not a shock about the sexual incompatibility.
Our sex drives are also drastically different with me having the higher one. Masturbation comes in handy with that one.
hence my nice collection of toys.