CHEATING IS CHEATING.PERIOD
Do You Consider Online Sex-Roleplaying to be Cheating?
08/02/2011
I'm so sorry, darlin'.
Yes, it is very much cheating, IMO. Heck, I've been in situations like this where what seems innocent at first escalates to something so huge, it was taken to real life in a physical sense.
He needs to put a stop to this or you need to find better.
Yes, it is very much cheating, IMO. Heck, I've been in situations like this where what seems innocent at first escalates to something so huge, it was taken to real life in a physical sense.
He needs to put a stop to this or you need to find better.
08/02/2011
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It's definitely betrayal. I'll bet he wouldn't like it a bit if the shoe was on the other foot!!
Originally posted by
MeliPixie
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate
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more
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate snoopy girls. I'm trembling and almost unable to type this. I hate myself for not noticing the different background color. I really would not like to know what I'm about to tell you all.
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
08/03/2011
Um, well it depends on the role play, if it was a roleplay outside of the sex (like with actual characters and plotlines) then no, if it was just cyber sex then it's cheating.
I've roleplayed sex a lot when in a committed relationship, but we roleplayed as the members of dethklok because i'm a yaoi fangirl and I don't think that was cheating... but if he was roleplaying as himself then it's cheating.
I've roleplayed sex a lot when in a committed relationship, but we roleplayed as the members of dethklok because i'm a yaoi fangirl and I don't think that was cheating... but if he was roleplaying as himself then it's cheating.
08/04/2011
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Ha! Oh god, what a relief and also... I'm sorry, but I literally laughed out loud.
Originally posted by
MeliPixie
EVERYONE READ THIS PLEASE.
This was all just a huge misunderstanding. He told me to go ahead and read them (and because he said to I did), he was actually helping this person with a story! I should not have freaked out. The writer is even a ... more
This was all just a huge misunderstanding. He told me to go ahead and read them (and because he said to I did), he was actually helping this person with a story! I should not have freaked out. The writer is even a ... more
EVERYONE READ THIS PLEASE.
This was all just a huge misunderstanding. He told me to go ahead and read them (and because he said to I did), he was actually helping this person with a story! I should not have freaked out. The writer is even a guy. The writer wanted help writing sex from a girl's point of view, and Wolfie just happened to be the one whose male writing style he liked best...
I'm such a twit. I'm sorry to have wasted everyone's time with this. Thank you all so much for your encouragement. You guys are all so amazing. less
This was all just a huge misunderstanding. He told me to go ahead and read them (and because he said to I did), he was actually helping this person with a story! I should not have freaked out. The writer is even a guy. The writer wanted help writing sex from a girl's point of view, and Wolfie just happened to be the one whose male writing style he liked best...
I'm such a twit. I'm sorry to have wasted everyone's time with this. Thank you all so much for your encouragement. You guys are all so amazing. less
Glad to hear things are alright.
08/06/2011
if there are prior rules about this then yes.
08/06/2011
I would have reacted the exact same way. It's good you didn't read them even if it caused you stress for awhile. That's dedication.
08/06/2011
I'm so glad things worked out!
08/10/2011
I find it to be cheating. It's a form of breaching trust, therefore cheating.
Edit: Glad that it all worked out properly.
Edit: Glad that it all worked out properly.
08/10/2011
yes
08/10/2011
I don't think that's considered cheating. I mean, he should definitely be open and honest with you there's no doubt about that. If he's doing something sexual with someone else and not with you when you even asked for it, then maybe he's just not comfortable enough to do it with you and that means there is something wrong with the relationship. You both should be comfortable, honest and communicating with each other.
the internet can give you lots of freedom to do whatever you want with who ever you want, but I think its safe to say, flirting with a girl on the internet is way better than fucking a girl in person behind your back because that is considered cheating in my book and can be really hurtful if he does it and lies about it. your relationship should be honest and open. no matter what, guys will always be thinking about girls its in human nature to take interest in more than one person but thats for a whole other topic. Either way I hope it all works out for you two.
the internet can give you lots of freedom to do whatever you want with who ever you want, but I think its safe to say, flirting with a girl on the internet is way better than fucking a girl in person behind your back because that is considered cheating in my book and can be really hurtful if he does it and lies about it. your relationship should be honest and open. no matter what, guys will always be thinking about girls its in human nature to take interest in more than one person but thats for a whole other topic. Either way I hope it all works out for you two.
08/12/2011
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I did not vote in your poll as I am unsure about "cheating" by talking sexual on the computer. I agree with Sapphire Storm that it is something you should talk about with him. I think you have a good approach and be open to his explanation.
Originally posted by
Ansley
Your feelings are valid. This is something the two of you need to sit down and discuss. I really hope things work out. *hugs*
Perhaps he was trying to work out how to handle your request by using another as a sounding board. I know there are many things I would like to "try" with my wife but do not know how to initiate or address them without turning her "OFF".
My wife becomes very upset with me when I talk sexual with another and she does not care to listen to my explanation. I admire your ability to talk about it with him and give him the chance to answer. I believe your relationship will grow from the discussion and I wish you the best.
08/12/2011
yes
09/03/2011
I'm so sorry for you.
I'd be pretty pissed if I found out my boyfriend was doing that. You guys should really sit down and talk about it. Try saying it in person though instead of text.
I'd be pretty pissed if I found out my boyfriend was doing that. You guys should really sit down and talk about it. Try saying it in person though instead of text.
09/07/2011
Oh my, what a misunderstanding! Glad it worked out. I would have to agree that it would of been cheating, just not cheating that is worth breaking up over unless there was a relationship involved. Just like a simple kiss would not be worthy of breaking up, unless their were feelings involved. However since that is not what it was then it was ok. I am glad everything worked out for you.
09/12/2011
This makes me wince. Just dump the guy.
09/13/2011
It is DEFINITELY CHEATING in your case. Cheating can be anything if it isn't agreed upon by the couple. It's not cheating if it's OKayed by the partner.
09/14/2011
I've had guys try to sext me or message me online for sexual things, and I turn it down because no matter HOW I explain it to my lover, it will ALWAYS boil down to cheating in my mind.
09/18/2011
it's definitely cheating and you are not overreacting. he kept it from you. he lied to you. i sincerely hope you both work it out. i wish you all the best <3
11/28/2011
If it makes you feel how you described, it was cheating.
11/28/2011
everything that means feelings is huge ,, just sit down at talk good luck
11/28/2011
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yes that is cheating...that's hurtful. I would want open communication a guy spanked me with a leather belt at work 2 days ago when I wasn't even paying attention I didn't know he was behind me and I told my boyfriend. He didn't seem to mind he knows I didn't ask for it and don't cheat on him...well maybe in an indirect way I asked for it for always being flirty and giving sexy details I can be a tease so the guy tested the waters after a few weeks we both noticed I smiled after the leather hit me....It's not going further than that lol.
Originally posted by
MeliPixie
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate
...
more
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate snoopy girls. I'm trembling and almost unable to type this. I hate myself for not noticing the different background color. I really would not like to know what I'm about to tell you all.
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
Tell him to grow up and communicate with you? Perhaps you can figure out the underlying causes like where in the relationship there are problems that need to be fixed...
Hmm why don't you go do something nice for yourself how about getting your hair/nails done dressing nice for a few weeks and maybe buying a few new makeup items and underclothes? That helps me.
ANyway,that reminds me I need to start a thread about that incident...
11/29/2011
i seen where this was 3 mons ago and i hope u all worked it out. me and my husband been together 7 yrs and he has cheated on me......it took awhile but we are together. i still think bout it and have a hardtime. so just keeep tht in mind, do u want to always worry ur self? i woiuld call tht cheating. anyone in a relationship should only talk act like tht with their partner. and pls dnt be sry.....he did it. he didnt log out. and u seen it. u didnt betray his trust. hunny he betrayed u.
11/30/2011
Your feelings are valid. However, I think it's important to understand that he may not register it as a betrayal. If he also has an emotional relationship to this person, that's one thing. He may, however, consider it sort of robotic and be as emotionally attached as he his to porn (not very much). Although that still doesn't make it right, it is a little bit easier to justify from his perspective. However, you say it's one girl, and that it's been going on a long time. That to me indicates it's a thing between them. Now, I'd definitely talk to him about that, but even if it isn't physical cheating, it is certainly emotional cheating.
However, it's also important to consider that he has been a great partner and that this seems to have not affected your relationship (until now.... I mostly mean in the sense that he's not focusing more on her than you or anything like that). If he's not interested in pursuing anything real life, giving him a pass on internet sex with strangers might be an option if it's something you could feel okay with.
However, it's also important to consider that he has been a great partner and that this seems to have not affected your relationship (until now.... I mostly mean in the sense that he's not focusing more on her than you or anything like that). If he's not interested in pursuing anything real life, giving him a pass on internet sex with strangers might be an option if it's something you could feel okay with.
12/01/2011
I would be upset too ;/
12/12/2011
Sounds like you two worked it out, I'm glad, that could be a really painful situation.
12/21/2011
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That sort of thing should only be talked about with your significant other
Originally posted by
MeliPixie
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate
...
more
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate snoopy girls. I'm trembling and almost unable to type this. I hate myself for not noticing the different background color. I really would not like to know what I'm about to tell you all.
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
01/01/2012
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Sounds like cheating to me.
Originally posted by
MeliPixie
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate
...
more
So I accidentally stumbled across my boyfriend's Notes on an art site we visit. And I SWEAR on my LIFE, I really did just stumble... I saw there were notes and didn't realize it was him logged in, and not me. I'm not a snoop, and I hate snoopy girls. I'm trembling and almost unable to type this. I hate myself for not noticing the different background color. I really would not like to know what I'm about to tell you all.
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
My boyfriend of almost two years, with whom I have been completely honest and not been doing this sort of thing since we started dating, has been having internet sex with this girl. And I'm not even angry! I feel cheated on and hurt, and I feel like this means I'm not enough for him. He could always be doing this with me, and not some stranger. He even knows I enjoy it.
I consider our relationship to be long-term; we started out as friend for four years, and now we've been dating for almost two years after that, and in that time we have promised to only see one another romantically and sexually. We love each other, and trust each other completely (or so I thought) and we know things about the other that not even our best friends know. We will be moving in together soon and we have plans for kids and a future together. But now what I feel is a swirling pit of emptiness in my stomach, and my arms and legs are shaky and numb. I've felt this before, and I never thought I would feel it with him.
I logged him off immediately because I don't want to read them, I've already accidentally betrayed his trust when all I wanted to do was: Last night I saw he was writing notes, and I wondered if I had any. So I opened the site this morning and went into what I thought were my notes but were his, opened one, and holy crap. He's doing things with her in text he doesn't do with me and I've asked him to. It just... It really hurts.
So am I overreacting? Is cyber-sex not a form of sex with another person? Or am I right to feel hurt and betrayed like this? And was I wrong to send him this text:
"Okay. You're gonna hate me and think I was snooping. But I swear on my life I wasn't. I accidentally opened your (art site) notes... And I was like... I have notes? I never talk to anyone here... I forgot you were signed in... The color of the background didn't even make me go hey this isn't mine... But now that I've read your last message... I'm feeling a little hurt... I won't read any more of them because they're yours and clearly not mine, but would it be cruel of me to ask you not to do this anymore, my love...? It makes me feel like I'm not enough for you... If you want to roleplay, you always, always have me... *looks down and fidgets and bites her lip to stop it trembling* "
Please someone talk to me. I'm home alone in our apartment and feeling kinda betrayed. less
10/16/2012
i'd consider it cheating.
10/16/2012
different relationships have different boundaries when it comes to what is cheating and what is not, but this sounds like it betrayed the trust that you built together. Especially if he's doing things with her that he hasn't with you
10/18/2012