How well do you accept compliments?

Antipova Antipova
Inspired by this thread on men's penis insecurities, I got to wondering how well most of us naturally accept compliments.

Personally, it's really hard for me to be complimented---even genuine, thoughtful compliments will immediately send me to worrying whether something is wrong with me that made the complimenter open his mouth to reassure me about. I've been struggling for years now to be able to accept compliments neutrally (and, maybe, someday, gracefully), without spiraling into thinking the complimenter means the opposite of what was said---whether it's about my body, or about the dinner I just made, or my performance on a recent project.

Being able to give compliments to boost your partner's esteem within a relationship is really important, and I wonder how everyone else feels about their own ability to accept compliments, their partner's ability to accept compliments, and how that affects your relationship. Does this come naturally for most people? How do you feel like your relationship with your partner affects your self-esteem?
07/21/2011
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Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
Inspired by this thread on men's penis insecurities, I got to wondering how well most of us naturally accept compliments.

Personally, it's really hard for me to be complimented---even genuine, thoughtful compliments will immediately ... More
I've learned through the years that a simple "Thank you very much" works quite nicely and gets the attention over with. I have had tendencies where I felt I needed to "explain" said quality or object of compliment. I now realize that sometimes giving a compliment feels just as good as getting one and over qualifying or underqualifying may leave the complimentor feeling awkward. So most of the time a smile and a thank you will do
07/21/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I don't take them well at all. I always assume in the back of my brain that someone is dishonest. I am getting much better, though.
07/22/2011
Waterfall Waterfall
I have a hard time accepting compliments. Mostly because I feel like someone is kind of lying to me. Sometimes I am good at accepting them though.
07/22/2011
Dusk Dusk
I have quite a hard time accepting them and I tend to blush a lot. After dealing with ongoing depression of various kinds I also tend to think people are just trying to make me feel better and they aren't being completely truthful.
07/22/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I have a hard time accepting them because while I may think the same things sometimes, I think them as confidence boosters and it's hard for me to get that sometimes people also think I look good, picked a really cute shirt, great nail polish, etc.
07/22/2011
EJ EJ
Totally depends on who the compliment is coming from. I have a few uber-sincere people in my life who just aren't into flattery...period. I can take a compliment from them. If it comes from some other people, I sometimes wonder..."Now what does he/she want from me? Why are they trying to butter me up?"
08/01/2011
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