Most of the time, I am. Why, I don't exactly know why. Perhaps its because I get horny at a faster rate than my partner or because I'm younger. It could be that I'm more use to going after the things I want.
Who is the one to initiate sex? You or your partner? I am not good at initiating. I wish I was more comfortable with it.
Your op was back in Jan. I hope you are more comfortable with initiating it now. Can always just start doing solo play to let SO know. With us Oh is the instigator 70% of the time. When Ow gets out one of her toys, it's a hint.