Is a relationship doomed when there's contempt?

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Is a relationship doomed when there's contempt?
11/26/2012
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js250 js250
Generally yes--how can you feel love with contempt? /When one person looks down on another with contempt--they do not see or believe in the good of the other person.
11/26/2012
no longer here no longer here
We would need more information. I wouldn't say doomed...the contempt can be removed. The relationship needs help and work, maybe counseling if it's longterm. There really isn't much that two people who want to stay together can not work through. But there usually needs to be some give and take on both sides...in other words BOTH sides need to want the relationship enough to work at it.
11/26/2012
shorejen9 shorejen9
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Originally posted by no longer here
We would need more information. I wouldn't say doomed...the contempt can be removed. The relationship needs help and work, maybe counseling if it's longterm. There really isn't much that two people who want to stay together can not work ... More
I wholeheartedly agree with this. Contempt can be overcome, with work and only if truly wanted by both.
11/26/2012
Edeneve Edeneve
yes. there is no trust when there is contempt. it's nearly impossible to rebuild trust once it's broken.
11/26/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yes if it's more than for a fight and the people in the relationship don't confront the reasons for the contempt
11/26/2012
minstrel69 minstrel69
All depends on whether you are both willing to put in the effort to change whatever is causing the strife. Any relationship without give and take is probably doomed.
11/26/2012
tequilafish tequilafish
For me it's impossible to be happy when I'm feeling contempt in a relationship. It's something that needs to be worked through/resolved, for me personally.
11/27/2012
MacNCheese MacNCheese
I would have to say yes...
12/01/2012
nova2014 nova2014
I'd say yes because that would overwhelm other feelings at some point, just too much stress for something that doesn't make you happy (i'm assuming)
01/22/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
It's one of the four horsemen of divorce.



It doesn't mean it's doomed. It just means you have to decide if you are willing to fix it and try to do better for you and your relationship.
01/23/2013
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