My Man and I have been together a very long time. I prefer to go through my life and I went into my marriage with the belief that it was
going to work. (I wouldn't have married him if I didn't think so.) I am often pretty cynical, but I don't think of my relationship with My Man as something temporary
. We went into it knowing it would be for life, and we've stayed together for decades and have no plan to ever end it.
I just couldn't go on with him thinking "I have to have a contingency plan for what I'm going to do when we break up?" or "There are certain things we simply can't
do (like get a tattoo) just in CASE we break up?" That just isn't the way I think
. IMO, a divorce would be worse than having to have a tattoo removed, or even keeping it there. Yet, the "threat" of breaking up doesn't keep anyone from getting involved with an other person. I think a tattoo is less "permanent" than Love is and not as big a deal as a LOT of things people do in relationships. I mean, having KIDS is certainly more a big deal than a tattoo, yet it doesn't stop people from having them "in case we ever break up." Does it? I mean, I think if a little ink is bothering someone about whether the relationship will end or not, doesn't having a little human being with both your DNA in it walking around a bigger deal?
If he wants the tattoo, and your relationship is worth keeping I say "Why not?"