Is this ok or just a bad idea?

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Is this ok or just a bad idea?

kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
So this guy I work with really has a thing for me. I'm in love with my boyfriend we dated since 2007. He is moving in August,getting a job then going to collage after...he will be 10 hours away from me,however we are going to long distance it until he's done with collage. Anyway the guy who likes ME and also has a thing for me because he thinks I'm a freak...he is a nice guy if I never met my guy I may have considered a date. Anyway I'm naughty and I sometimes ask provocative questions or I talk about spanking for some reason especially infront of him...well one day he tested the waters and I didn't even know he was behind me and I wasn't paying attention to anything..I turn around in shock and smiled he got me with a leather belt on my ass. I never asked for it and told my boyfriend about it...whom didn't care. So I decided if it happens again I won't object. Only from that guy though no one else. I don't want more than 2 people spanking me lol. And only the belt not him touching me in any way. I did get after him I said "you did not just go there" but it was very playful and flirty and fake mad way.

Idk maybe its best to not let that happen but my boyfriend and I don't get much time to talk at work or even spend time together so its a way to get my spanking fix my guy didn't seem to care...so its ok then?
11/29/2011
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Kkay Kkay
Being involved with your boss and starting to get involved with a coworker at the same time sounds like a bad idea all around to me.
11/29/2011
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I really have no opinion on how it will or will not affect your relationship because that's between you and your boyfriend. I would take the fact that he doesn't care as a giant red flag if it were me, but that's your call.

However, if that happens at work and you respond in a way he doesn't like, he can actually sue you. If another coworker sees it, you both can be sued. That is severely inappropriate to take place in a workplace. It doesn't take much to hold up as a sexual harassment suit and your being involved with the boss makes it even more plausible for someone to get litigious and sue based on trying to gain managerial favor through you. It could go wrong in more ways that I can count, and what would 'going right' even be? If it could cost you your job (and honestly if I was the boss and saw or heard of someone getting spanked at work, the spanker and spankee would have already been fired), is it really worth it? You constantly comment that there are no other jobs available to you and your health puts you at risk for losing this one, why put yourself at a very real risk of being fired or even taken to court for a cheap thrill?
11/29/2011
Starkiller87 Starkiller87
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Originally posted by Kkay
Being involved with your boss and starting to get involved with a coworker at the same time sounds like a bad idea all around to me.
I agree with this, you said you were involved with your boss before and now a coworker. This is gonna end poorly. You seem to have a lot of issues to work out with your boyfriend, maybe you guys should have a talk.
11/29/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really have no opinion on how it will or will not affect your relationship because that's between you and your boyfriend. I would take the fact that he doesn't care as a giant red flag if it were me, but that's your ...
I agree with what Tori said, in this economy you can't risk your job!
11/29/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really have no opinion on how it will or will not affect your relationship because that's between you and your boyfriend. I would take the fact that he doesn't care as a giant red flag if it were me, but that's your ...
ok so the person who didn't ask to be spanked and wasn't even paying attentionw out get fired?
11/29/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really have no opinion on how it will or will not affect your relationship because that's between you and your boyfriend. I would take the fact that he doesn't care as a giant red flag if it were me, but that's your ...
ok so the person who didn't ask to be spanked and wasn't even paying attentionw out get fired?
11/29/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I really have no opinion on how it will or will not affect your relationship because that's between you and your boyfriend. I would take the fact that he doesn't care as a giant red flag if it were me, but that's your ...
well if my job was going to punish me It would have started years ago thats all I"m going to say because people know and see. He isn't a boss but a shift manager however higher ups know and see plus there are tons of cameras in there. I think if you are a good worker they let swearing and some inappropriate things happen IDK. Good worker as in show up everyday and do your job.
11/29/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
if you don't report getting spanked to your superiors, then yes you can fired. If it's not reported, then you're indirectly stating that that kind of action is ok between you and him. If an inquiry occurs, what he could do is that he could say that you never complained so you must have liked it and thus permitted it. Most bosses will assume "Since she didn't say anything to me about it, then it must be OK", even if you don't personally feel this way. Most places of work (unless you work in the sex industry) do NOT permit that kind of sexual display.

Since I know you were devestated that you and your boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago, I would come clean about what's going on between you and your other coworker. It will look a lot better than him finding out about what you guys are talking about and doing. However, if you're in the type of relationship where that kind of behavior is permissible, then you should have little to nothing to worry about.

If anything, what you need to do is to switch places, so to speak. Imagine you are your boyfriend and your boyfriend is in your shoes. Would you be okay with a girl talking about getting spanked with your man? And would you be okay with a girl slapping your man's ass? If the answer is no to these questions, you better talk with your man AND your coworker. Honestly, just letting him spank you is going into something else. Stop it before it starts. If you care about your relationship, it would be good idea to stop touching and keep conversation ONLY work related.

If this coworker knows you're already in a committed relationship, but disrespects your relationship, then you shouldn't waste your time with him. That's straight up disrespect to both of you. And someone that can't respect you before a relationship won't consider respecting you during a relationship. Tell him to stop because you can both lose your jobs, and it's not right to your relationship (that is assuming that this does violate the boundaries in your relationship). If your coworker still doesn't stop, then you'll need to file sexual harassment claim.

Anyway, I'm hoping you take everyone's advise here because in this economy it would suck to lose your job. Getting emotionally invested with coworkers is tricky, but I hope it works out.
11/29/2011
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
well if my job was going to punish me It would have started years ago thats all I"m going to say because people know and see. He isn't a boss but a shift manager however higher ups know and see plus there are tons of cameras in there. I ...
You don't know that. Consensually dating someone is one thing. Participating in being spanked by anyone there, coworker, boss, or even customer IS reason enough to get fired in this country. Especially if you work for a larger corporation that's ultra-careful about sexual harassment suits and appropriate behavior. You can be the best employee in the world and if someone else there wants to report this incident, it can and will cost you your job. All someone has to say is that they saw this. That will cost you your job. If they say they saw it AND it made them feel uncomfortable seeing a form of fraternization (which yes, being spanked with a belt is) not only will you be fired, but you AND most likely the other party involved AND the company can be easily sued for sexual harassment. This is not something you play around with.
11/29/2011
Ghost Ghost
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Originally posted by kinky girlfriend
So this guy I work with really has a thing for me. I'm in love with my boyfriend we dated since 2007. He is moving in August,getting a job then going to collage after...he will be 10 hours away from me,however we are going to long distance it ...
1) This is completely inappropriate workplace behavior: on your part for allowing it to continue, on your boyfriend's/boss&a mp;# 39; part for not taking the behavior seriously, and on the part of the other employee for spanking you.

2) As I have read your previous posts, I feel compelled to let you know that what you describe as your "relationship" with your boyfriend really seems unhealthy on many levels.

3) You should not allow the behavior to continue, and continued flirtations on your part would be inappropriate: both in the sense of workplace ethics and in the sense that you want to continue having a "relationship" with your boyfriend. Flirtation can lead to cheating and, unless you have an expressly polyamorous relationship, is inappropriate. Clearly, you need to have better communication with your boyfriend about this, and other, matters.

However, I understand you don't like to take advice as you were quite put off in your last posts when people did not agree with your behavior (again relating to inappropriate workplace interactions with your boyfriend/boss), and thus, I don't understand the point of your question.
11/29/2011
kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by Ghost
1) This is completely inappropriate workplace behavior: on your part for allowing it to continue, on your boyfriend's/boss&a mp;# 39; part for not taking the behavior seriously, and on the part of the other employee for spanking you.
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I think what I need to do is look for my ipod and when I get paid buy some headphones and that keeps me working good and blocks things out I feel less stress and more happy...I just keep 1 earpiece in one ear only its ok there no one minds as long as you do your job,can hear everyone and only have 1 in the ear and if you stay and clean when the place cloeses u can put both in. Actually I think I would be ok with a girl walking up and spanking my man but if they slept together or were touchy feely more than that I would
11/29/2011
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