LDRs not so bad?

nova2014 nova2014
I don't necessarily like being in an LDR but since it's only for a predetermined amount of time in our relationship, I look at my LDR period as being a pro since it allows for us to grow and be on our own, develop, away from each other and find ourselves before we're no longer an LDR. How do you feel about your LDR
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I want it to not be an LDR anymore ASAP
19
I wouldn't mind prolonging the long distance part of the relationship
1
I'm just going with the flow
10
I don't mind it being an LDR if the distance would be smaller
3
Other
4
Total votes: 37 (31 voters)
Poll is closed
03/20/2013
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gsfanatic gsfanatic
I'd rather it not be long distance, but we've been at this for a few months
03/20/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am in a LDR too. It gets hard at times. But we make time to speak thru text most the day until he is done working. Then cam at night when he is at home or talk on the phone for a few hours. I wish we were a little closer as well which I can't wait I am moving soon and we will be closer then I am now. He plans to move to where I am going too now since he will not be moving to where I am at now. I can't wait.
03/20/2013
AliMc AliMc
Been in an LDR for just over 2 years now. We talk about taking the next step all the time but neither of us are in a position to do it yet. Seems like there's no end in sight sometimes, it's really disheartening. We get to chat online every day though and we visit each other once a month usually. This break between our visits right now is one of our longest ones yet though. It's not easy.
03/20/2013
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
I'm not in one right now, but I used to be in one. We were 7 hours apart and couldn't take it anymore after 6 months, so he moved closer to me. We are still dating.
03/21/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
I don't necessarily like being in an LDR but since it's only for a predetermined amount of time in our relationship, I look at my LDR period as being a pro since it allows for us to grow and be on our own, develop, away from each other and ... More
Took me a second to figure out what LDR was.

Never been in an "LDR" that was serious, so I can't really say, but I do sympathize for those who have to go it long distance. I can imagine that's tough!

If it were me in an LDR, I'd much prefer not being long distance if I had the choice.
03/21/2013
twelve13 twelve13
I went from one LDR that was 2,500 miles apart to another one (with a different person) that is 180 miles away. It definitely makes it easier when the distance is closer, but it's not ideal either way.
03/22/2013
bratcat bratcat
While some days are harder than other and as much as i love to be with my partner physically i don't mind being in a "long distance relationship," and try to just go with the flow. When my partner moved an extra hour away i was kind of bummed but i was also happy for them for seeking a good opportunity for employment. I would like to one day be in the same county, or even an hours drive away would be nice, but that will not be happening any time soon. in the 3 years we've been together though we've done a good job at being able to see one an other for 3-7 days time once a month, and we talk daily as well as call each other before going to bed, so most days it's not so bad.
03/22/2013
AliMc AliMc
Modern technology definitely helps make the distance seem smaller.
03/22/2013
spiced spiced
My wife and I lived hundreds of miles apart for the first few years. It was rough. We talked on the phone every night, traded emails, and visited each other as often as we could. A couple of times, we almost broke up, but we're glad we toughed it out.

The only thing I really miss about that time is how passionate things always got when we got together!
03/28/2013
friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
It's really scary to think about finally not being separated by hundreds of miles, but I am definitely lookin forward to it more than anythingggg.
05/08/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Hmmm...I was in an LDR for 3 years with a distance of 2000 miles. We rarely saw each other. Some days I couldn't wait to be together, other days I didn't mind the distance too much. It allowed us to grow close emotionally before we explored a physical relationship.
05/08/2013
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I am ready for it to be done. Only one more week!
05/08/2013
SMichelle SMichelle
I'm in an LDR, and have been for nearly 2 years now. My boyfriend lives in the UK, and I live in the US. There are some days that the distance is killer for me, and there are other times that it's not too bad.

We visit when we can, but it still seems to be about 5-6 months in between visits. Which sucks. A lot. However, it does seem to make our time together just that much more amazing.

I am looking forward to the day that we can be together full time, but I'm not really in a rush to get there. Which is a good thing, really, because the immigration rules in the UK are going to make it REALLY tough for us to qualify for a fiance/spouse visa. I am thinking about going there for a student visa (I've been wanting to get either a second bachelors degree, or a masters degree), which would enable me to stay in the country for an extended period of time, and to help us test the waters of being together on a long term basis.
05/08/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
LDRs suck
05/19/2013
surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
I don't necessarily like being in an LDR but since it's only for a predetermined amount of time in our relationship, I look at my LDR period as being a pro since it allows for us to grow and be on our own, develop, away from each other and ... More
I just spent almost three months with my partner, which is the longest that I have spent with him continually, and I loved it. I don't like the distance part of our relationship.
05/19/2013
Clock Chime Clock Chime
Just going with it. It sucks, but it's temporary.
05/20/2013
karenm karenm
I was in one for a couple years. It was okay at the time, but now it sort of feels like a waste of time since we broke up anyway. But it could be worth it with the right person if you knew it was temporary.
06/06/2013
melissa1973 melissa1973
I hate the distances and when he says he's on his way he always manages to go somewhere else instead.
06/06/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
rather not but I would try to just go with the flow
06/06/2013
chibi1091 chibi1091
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
I don't necessarily like being in an LDR but since it's only for a predetermined amount of time in our relationship, I look at my LDR period as being a pro since it allows for us to grow and be on our own, develop, away from each other and ... More
I'm in one now myself, and I think he's too amazing to give up over distance. We're going to be apart distance-wise for years, but we both are committed and trust each other. That's all you can do.
08/27/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I think your outlook is beautiful and agree coly.
08/31/2013
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Unique posters: 21