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My husband and I readjusted our whole sexual life and have become more open, planning for fun times and saving new lingerie/toys/movies, etc. This upped our anticipation level to a new high and things progressed from there. There is still nights
My husband and I readjusted our whole sexual life and have become more open, planning for fun times and saving new lingerie/toys/movies, etc. This upped our anticipation level to a new high and things progressed from there. There is still nights where one of us is wanting and the other not...but that is where we masturbate and let the other watch. The other person either gets into it or has an amazing show. We also made little challenges, and put a bit of extra effort into being sexually compatible. Honestly, the more sex you have, the more you need. I vowed to no matter what, have sex every day for one month, then two then it became a need to have sex in one way or another with him at least 3-4 days per week. And we both enjoy it. But we still plan for that anticipated weekend, day, etc. that we will use our new items and tease the hell out of each other.
Excellent advice. I've always had the 'more traditional' problem of a wife with lower sex drive. I realize now that is a stereotype - but my wife and others leverage that perception to fend off their more highly sexual partners. For a man not to want sex has a greater stigma attached to it - but it clearly happens a lot.
As my wife got older and started to hear her girl friends talk about their sexless marriages - mine finally figured out how good she has it. Since then things have improved 1000%. It really does take 2 to tango!
From the male perspective - aside from clinical depression and hormonal issues (low-testosterone), I think a lack of desire is associated with performance anxiety. As a young man this wasn't a problem for me, but starting in my early 50s it got to be more and more of a problem.
Sex toys are great because I can give my wife an unlimited number of orgasms - and 'jump in' as I'm able. Cialis is a the greatest invention since the BC pill!