I'm Mopey Because My Girlfriend is Thinking of Chopping Her Hair Off

Madeira Madeira
And I really want to tell her just "Don't you dare" but I dont want to be controlling and awful, but the problem is I have a fetish (as in a hardcore I need this one to get off fetish) for long hair, and if she cuts off too much I won't be able to orgasm properly... I'm also worried if I tell her not to she'll just think I'm being bossy and awful, and will do it anyway to prove a point.

Am I being unreasonable? I encourage her to choose my haircuts and do my best to look attractive and pleasing to her, She knows I have a fetish. I feel as if she's kind of disregarding my sexual needs, and I mean I know it's weird, and possibly a bit of a pain, but is this a reasonable need?
12/16/2010
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DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Well, I understand both sides of it.

As someone with extremely long hair, I understand that having long hair can be a huge pain in the ass; it's harder to maintain, it can hurt your neck, you can't try doing all kinds of crazy new designs because there aren't a whole lot of at home styles you can do with long hair, and sometimes you just want a change.

On the other hand, if you're asking her not to, and you have a fetish for long hair, then she should take that into consideration. I wouldn't want to destroy something that brings my partner a lot of joy.

On the other hand, it's my body and my hair, and I dress as I do and wear my hair (and everything else) the way I want to because it makes me feel attractive.




Have you asked her to consider cutting it shorter but not short? You said that she knows you have a fetish, but also say that you won't tell her not to cut it... If she knows, then why aren't you explaining honestly why you don't want her to cut it?
12/16/2010
Mistress Kitty Mistress Kitty
Is she aware how big of a deal it is toward your sexual needs? I agree though, you should talk to her and see how short see is planning on cutting it before getting too worried.
12/16/2010
Madeira Madeira
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Well, I understand both sides of it.

As someone with extremely long hair, I understand that having long hair can be a huge pain in the ass; it's harder to maintain, it can hurt your neck, you can't try doing all kinds of crazy new ... More
I've tried... I mean I have quite long hair myself and I do understand it's a pain, but what she really seems to want is choppy scene kid layers which she can get with longer hair... all I want is for her to leave it below the shoulderblades, if it stays there I'll be a perfectly happy little camper
12/16/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
To be quite honest, I think you're being very selfish. It's her hair to do with what she pleases. Also, it's hair! It grows back. It's unfortunate for you that it's your fetish, but that shouldn't dictate what kind restrictions are placed on her life.
12/17/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
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Originally posted by Madeira
I've tried... I mean I have quite long hair myself and I do understand it's a pain, but what she really seems to want is choppy scene kid layers which she can get with longer hair... all I want is for her to leave it below the ... More
I understand that, but it's also her hair, and she has to look at herself every day in the mirror and like what she sees. If she keeps her hair long and is thinking about how angry and resentful she is that because of you she can't cut it the way she REALLY wants it, is that healthy for a relationship?

And if your thread title is talking about the fact that you're moping because your girlfriend is cutting her hair, that to me indicates you know you aren't being fair to her and you're just pouting about it.
12/17/2010
Madeira Madeira
Resorted to bribery, apparently we now have an arrangement everyone is happy with. Her hair stays below the shoulder blades, and she gets shrimp once a week and I buy her the metallic silver boots she wants... now everyone's happy
12/17/2010
Kindred Kindred
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Originally posted by Madeira
Resorted to bribery, apparently we now have an arrangement everyone is happy with. Her hair stays below the shoulder blades, and she gets shrimp once a week and I buy her the metallic silver boots she wants... now everyone's happy
lol I'm glad it all worked out!
12/17/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Madeira
Resorted to bribery, apparently we now have an arrangement everyone is happy with. Her hair stays below the shoulder blades, and she gets shrimp once a week and I buy her the metallic silver boots she wants... now everyone's happy
Heh. Works for me.

I am not allowed to cut more than an inch or two off my hair once a year so I feel her pain but...

We also worked out an arrangement. He gets to gently comb out my knots.
12/17/2010
Yoda Yoda
I understand this topic and also have a thing for long hair. My wife grew hers out for me but recently chopped it off in favor of something more manageable. I was mildly worried about it because I absolutely hate short hair on women. But when she came home, I must admit, the new length drove me wild. As it turns out, she spiced things up for me without even knowing it.

I worry sometimes that our fetishes are an extension of narcissism, that is, our constant obsession with ourselves and "our way". Don't forget that your girlfriend has her own thing going on too. Your focusing too much on qualities that are of your own making, rather than those that make her valuable and sexy in her own right. If long hair is the only thing that drives you, what does it matter who you're with?
12/17/2010
Madeira Madeira
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Originally posted by Yoda
I understand this topic and also have a thing for long hair. My wife grew hers out for me but recently chopped it off in favor of something more manageable. I was mildly worried about it because I absolutely hate short hair on women. But when she ... More
Its not the only thing that drives me, but it's a... well it's a part of the process in a weird way, a small but important wire that if it gets messed up the next step in the chain reaction doesn't happen
12/17/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Perhaps she could wear a wig just during sex????
12/18/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Madeira
Resorted to bribery, apparently we now have an arrangement everyone is happy with. Her hair stays below the shoulder blades, and she gets shrimp once a week and I buy her the metallic silver boots she wants... now everyone's happy
*hugs*

I am glad you came to a compromise. I get both sides. That is a tough one.
12/18/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
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Originally posted by Shellz31
Perhaps she could wear a wig just during sex????
that may work. would be well worth for them to try
12/18/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Madeira
Resorted to bribery, apparently we now have an arrangement everyone is happy with. Her hair stays below the shoulder blades, and she gets shrimp once a week and I buy her the metallic silver boots she wants... now everyone's happy
hehe glad it worked out.
12/19/2010
kendra30752 kendra30752
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Originally posted by UnknownGirl
To be quite honest, I think you're being very selfish. It's her hair to do with what she pleases. Also, it's hair! It grows back. It's unfortunate for you that it's your fetish, but that shouldn't dictate what kind ... More
I have to agree with Oxygen. Sorry

I also think if you can only orgasm from her hair then you may want to re-think the reasons for being together. I couldn't imagine not being able to O over something like hair. Maybe yall aren't right together and if you do not love her for her then you might be leading her own. She shouldnt have to keep long hair just to please others or give someone an O. I had hair that was NEVER cut until I was 13 years old. My hair was so long it touched the back of my knees and there's no way in hell I'd have kept it like that and had to deal with the hell of it just to get someone off.
05/13/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I was just discussing today how I could never do it. My hair is exactly waist-length & I could never cut it off.

As far as the point of the topic, I really can't say one thing or the other about how you feel. I can see both sides.
05/13/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I just chopped all mine off and it feels AMAZING.
My boyfriend on the other hand, his hair is almost at his butt and he wants to cut it but i told him i'd kill him first.
05/13/2011
Piper Kitty Piper Kitty
I can relate to this subject.

After a bad day at work (12hours of problems), I arrived home to find my girlfriend had chopped her hair. Needless to say I was very mopey due to the shock of seeing her with such short hair. I knew she was heading to the salon to have highlights done, but she never said anything about getting her hair chopped.

As other posters have said, yes it is her hair and it will grow back. But I am at a loss for words for her radical change in style. I guess I should have seen it coming. Each time she has been to the salon over the last year she kept getting a little more cut off.

She knows I have always liked her hair long. Upon seeing her with the "new" look, I have been unable to express any positive comments. To me, she just doesn't look right with short hair.
06/24/2011
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