Who has been in a interracial relationship/has considered it?

Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Annemarie
I'm currently in an interracial relationship (8 months now, I think), and I really don't think of it as such. He's African/Chinese/Indian (as in, from India), and I'm white.

We get some odd or questioning looks sometimes, when ... more
I am going to have to agree.
Black men always ask me "Why you ain't with a brother who can treat you right?"

And black women just assume I'm with him cause he's "rich" or "I haven't found a good black man"

It's like... As Jessica Rabbit put it when asked about why she loves Roger "He makes me laugh.""
10/30/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Destri
My first husband was Black (well, he still is Black, he just isn't my husband anymore lol), I am German and American Indian. That was a long time ago, and while we did have some problems with people, the majority of the time if people had an ... more
As long as you two are happy.

HUGS for everyone!
10/30/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
I'm in an inter-racial relationship. I'm Asian and my wife is Caucasian. I never thought of us as having different ethnic backgrounds. We were friends that went to school together and eventually decided to date. I can't say I've ever knowingly witnessed any sort of discrimination. However, I have observed some stares/head turns when we've either been in a foreign country or areas less ethnically diverse. It doesn't bother me too much, but it can sometimes be painfully obvious, like if we alk into a restaurant and I'm the only non-white. Boy do the heads turn.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
All of my relationships have been interracial. You can't help who you're attracted to. Everyone has preferences and I don't think that's a bad thing.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
My stepdad is racist as well. He's refused to meet D because D is half black. For the most part, my stepdad acts like I'm single, 'cuz that's better than me being with someone even party not white.

When my mom told him my ... more
*Warning, text wall ahead*

Wow, that's just sad, I'm sorry. That your stepdad is such a racist that he'd rather you be with someone convicted of rape (and therefore possibly putting you in danger) than someone who is kind and caring, yet happens to be half African-American.

I can't believe that people are capable of feeling/saying things like that. I know that I will never say such things to my future children. I'd rather them be with someone they love and that will treat them right (regardless of color/religion/etc) than telling them that pretty much:

"Oh, I'd rather you be possibly raped by a convicted rapist boyfriend, than someone who is [fill in the blank] and will respect you. Because, you know, I'd rather you be possibly in danger and physically, mentally, and emotionally damaged so I can keep up appearances, than for word to get out that my daughter is with someone different."

..... Yeah, lol, you can tell that that kind of stuff doesn't sit well with me, lol but at least you found a good person to be with and didn't listen to your stepdad's foolishness

I know that even though Synthetik and I are just about as white as you can get (though I have a bit of Native American in my lineage, you couldn't ever tell from how I look and how I get sunburned, unfortunately like I am now, lol) I know that my dad's side of the family would flip their lids because:

1) I didn't find a "good ol' southern boy", seeing as Synthetik is from New Jersey, though moved down here at 4 years old.

2) Because of all of his tattoos and piercings. According to them, he'd be considered a freak. Here's an older picture of him when he had most of his facial piercings in:



Though he's taken most of those piercings out ever since he got a manager position, they'd still not like him for it

3) Because he, like me, is Wiccan. My dad's side of the family is not tolerant of other religions and I actually had to keep my religion secret while I lived there. To them, pretty much any other religion that isn't Christianity is "devil-worship" (don't get me wrong, I have no issues with anyone of any religion, as long as they're good people. But, I know for a fact that side of my family is not good people, or Christians)

*Sniff* *Ah.... Don't you just hate the smell of discrimination in the morning*?

(And I mean discrimination of all forms, whether it be towards a faith/race/nationality /sexuality/or just anything else)

/End of Text Wall, lol
10/31/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I have been in multiple interracial relationships and they all were just fine. In fact I have been in more interracial relationships than relationships with those of my own race. I like variety
I just fall for who I fall for, I don't have racial preferences.
10/31/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Rural areas, no matter where they are, tend to have some people who are less accepting of mixing "races", though as far as I know no one has been able to actually define a "race" in any sort of specific, scientific manner.

FWIW I noticed that the Federal Government does not consider Hispanic to be a separate race on the last census - it looks as though you're supposed to put down white/caucasian now. Unfortunately this probably won't matter to the type of people who would have a problem with someone marrying a Latino/Latina.

The big thing from the point of view of the parties in the relationship is to make sure that each person is aware of all the cultures in the relationship (yes, this means that the "I don't have a culture, I'm "white" party" [if present] needs to think about their culture). Unarticulated expectations that change with each person's culture can put a lot of stress on an intercultural relationship (and really, culture is more important than race).
10/31/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I've dated a few guys who were of other races, but I've never had a serious relationship that has been interracial. That's not because I am against it, the situation just never really presented itself to me, the guys I dated it just never worked out to be anything serious. To me color doesn't matter, and it'd never make or break a relationship for me just because they have another background.

It's probably best though because my dad does not agree with interracial relationships, I guess it's just the way he was raised and he's not the most open minded individual, and he would have had an issue with it. Not that that would have stopped me, but it's always easier to have their support rather than to have to fight against them.

Luckily the area that we're in seems to be pretty diverse, so there isn't really much issue with interracial relationships down here, it's pretty much just accepted from what I can tell.
10/31/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I would be perfectly fine in an interracial relationship, especially with a latino man. However, I'm in a relationship with a very white man (baby lotion in the summer time won't help him from burning) and I love him. We are though, in an interfaith relationship, me being atheist, and him being Muslim. So, that is somewhat difficult.
10/31/2010
Contributor: Pandahb Pandahb
I'm not sure if this counts or not. I am white as white people get. And my boyfriend is half white and half Indian (Like India... the country... not native... anyways) so he mostly looks like he a has really dark tan most of the time. He gets really dark in the summer and starts looking white in the winter. But I couldn't ask for a better guy, white, Indian, or whatever.
11/01/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
I haven't been in one, but that doesn't mean that I am completely opposed to the idea. I just haven't found anyone that I wanted to date and ended up dating. My son's father has enough Native American in him to go to school for free and stuff but he can't prove it due to crappy record keeping so he can't. But I'm a tiny bit Native American too so that doesn't count at all. (We have a pale, blonde child, he totally does not look like he has the slightest bit in him at all.) Ex, maybe boyfriend again soon, has American mut background, also including Native American.

My baby sister is pregnant and her baby is half-black, my step mom's family (and my sister's family, not step family) is quite racist so this will be pretty horrible. My other sister said that my aunt's boyfriend does not even think that people of different races should be friends. They don't know yet. (For anyone who saw my post from the other night, this is not the sister who is due very soon, I have two pregnant sisters. We have more time to tell them.)

I never really thought about it too much. I have a cousin who is half-black and my aunt was married to her father for years, I don't remember how old I was when they divorced. I just accepted it as normal and nothing out of the ordinary. I guess my family didn't at first though.
11/01/2010
Contributor: deletedd deletedd
So Far I've Only Dated Black Guys, But If My Current Relationship Doesnt Work Out iWould Love 2Try A White Guy
11/02/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
I was in a serious relationship with a middle-eastern guy when I was in high school. That is the only interracial relationship I have ever been in. Several life experiences have caused me emotional scars that seriously deter me from certain races (whether that is "right" or "wrong", that's just the way it is for me), and some other races I simply am not attracted to.

I am not turned off/disgusted/etc by people that enjoy interracial relationships. My coworker is white and dating a black guy. I think no less of either of them. I have no problem with it. It's just not what I am attracted to.

What people like is their preference and I will respect that as long as I am not chastised for my own preferences.
11/02/2010
Contributor: Phoenix713 Phoenix713
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Originally posted by Illusional
I was just wondering how people felt about interracial relationships across the board. I know you guys are open-minded people, but you never know.
Never been in one, so I have to go with other.
11/03/2010
Contributor: joja joja
My high school boyfriend was half black, but as we lived in a pretty liberal city, nobody ever gave us shit (at least that we knew of). However, he wasn't able to visit my grandparents as many of my previous boyfriends had, because I have the unfortune of having a racist hillbilly grandfather.
11/03/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by ToyGeek
I didn't take Crashgasm's response to be judging the validity of the question as a topic here, but rather as the standard response people give when encountering the subject of racism when it has not impacted their lives. I believe she's ... more
Your response made me smirk. I needed a good smirk today.
11/03/2010
Contributor: gone77 gone77
I've considered being in an interracial relationship; it's just never happened. Yet.

I'm sorry to hear about the awful shit that's happened to you and your boyfriend, Illusional. Spitting is a HUGE pet peeve of mine, and I think I would've knocked that woman on her ass. Not that I'm advocating violence, I just know how I would've reacted.

Some days it feels like it's 2010 only in the date. *sigh*
11/03/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by gone77
I've considered being in an interracial relationship; it's just never happened. Yet.

I'm sorry to hear about the awful shit that's happened to you and your boyfriend, Illusional. Spitting is a HUGE pet peeve of mine, and I ... more
Ya, spitting on someone just... seems SO disrespectful.

I was in shock, honestly.
11/04/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUGS*

Wow, this really sucks, our time is so hypocrite.

I have never been in a interracial relationship and never considered it bcs I had very few black friends growing up and the friends I had were friends and I wasn't attracted to them more than that.

I guess if I did meet someone now if I was signle it really wouldn't matter what their cultural background was or what ethnicity they would be. Love is love. I know for sure my mother would accept anyone I loved but my father would hate it if I was in a relationship with a black man/woman and so would my fathers father. It wouldn't have an influence on me though, other than the fact that I would probably see them less.

But reality is that I am a caucasion woman in a relationship with a caucasian man. Hugs again to you guys living discrimination I wish things were different
11/04/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
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Originally posted by Illusional
I was just wondering how people felt about interracial relationships across the board. I know you guys are open-minded people, but you never know.
Been there done that. My parents were bad about it at first then backed off. His parents were totally cool.
11/04/2010
Contributor: wolf's lil red temptation wolf's lil red temptation
IN this day and age, it is a HUGE disgrace that we cannot over come something like race. Not just that but also, that there is a huge divide when it comes to the Latin American cultures. My fiance gets crap all the time from his family because he is Guatemalan and I am half Mexican/ half caucasian. Just by hearing that he is engaged to a Mexican sends his family into fits sometimes...until they realize that I am super white not just by Mexican standards but also by most standards. I swear the only half of me that is Mexican is my ass and my chest!! But that is beside the point. I just think that this whole thing is crazy. Why can't people just be happy when someone finds love? No matter what size,shape or color.

I just hope that someday, this will all be behind us and if not that we can all teach our children and future generations that its not the color of someone's skin but the quality of the person that matters.
11/04/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I have definitely thought about many times. Skin is skin to me - we're all humans.
well most of us are....hehehe.
11/04/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by wolf's lil red temptation
IN this day and age, it is a HUGE disgrace that we cannot over come something like race. Not just that but also, that there is a huge divide when it comes to the Latin American cultures. My fiance gets crap all the time from his family because he is ... more
It is depressing. I would think happiness would be all that mattered... not what color skin they have.
Most everyone assumes i'm with him cause he makes good money because he's white... blah.
11/06/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
My stepdad is racist as well. He's refused to meet D because D is half black. For the most part, my stepdad acts like I'm single, 'cuz that's better than me being with someone even party not white.

When my mom told him my ... more
Well hun I guess the best thing you can say is "Thank God he's not a blood relative!" That kind of stupidity is what my Mother thought was perfectly fine...I should be sure never to date a black guy cause my grabdfather is racist. Now I agree it wouldn't be fair to my potential boyfriend but I figure i just wouldn't bring him to meet my racist family...that way I am not telling him I am ashamed but I AM sending a clear message to my family: I love whomever I love and if you have a problem with it then I can live happily and conscience free without your sorry asses.
11/06/2010
Contributor: minny minny
i have but not long term
11/08/2010
Contributor: celibacysucks celibacysucks
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Originally posted by Illusional
I was just wondering how people felt about interracial relationships across the board. I know you guys are open-minded people, but you never know.
I was in an interracial relationship and now have a biracial son. My son is beautiful, with hair, curls, and skin models pay large amounts of money for.
11/21/2010
Contributor: Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
Was, it was awesome, we took a break and I dated my now X husband. I miss the guy though, he was an amazing friend and we almost never talk now.
11/21/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I'm caucasian, and I fell insanely in love with an asian once upon a time. I like diversity..it's beautiful to me.
11/22/2010
Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
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Originally posted by Illusional
I currently am in an interracial relationship and it's pretty dandy.
However, people treat us like crap. We've been together three years and it just seems to disgust people. Its kind of scary.

We had black males throw food at his ... more
That kind of behaviour is fucking disgusting! I hate hate hate closed minded people. I dated a black guy named Echer for about 5 months during high school and he was a great guy. The only person that ever said anything racist or judgemental about our relationship was my dad. I have since forgiven him. He's 76 right now and comes from a completely different generation than us. I was still pretty pissed at the time though.
11/23/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Yeah, my dad is like 70. And I sorta get it, but his mother... my grandma was mixed... so I don't get it.
11/25/2010