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What's in a name, that makes marriage mean so much more than any other relationship in which both parties decide to stay together for life? With divorces so easy to obtain, marriage is no more permanent, and if someone really wants to go,
What's in a name, that makes marriage mean so much more than any other relationship in which both parties decide to stay together for life? With divorces so easy to obtain, marriage is no more permanent, and if someone really wants to go, they're going to leave. Why is it that some people react with so much horror or scorn when they find out that two people lived together for X years until one or both of them passed away and were never married? Why do those people give those couples who choose not to marry so much grief (Even if they plan to stay together for life)?
I can elaborate for her, because my situations are the prime ones that matter.
I am married. My husband is in the Army. Even though we have a child together and have an obvious life and a tie together, if we weren't married and I were to get hit by a car right now and be on my death bed, he would not get leave to come see me. We had to get the AMERICAN RED CROSS involved so that he could actually come to the birth of his child, because at the time, we were only engaged, not married. Did they care that I was carrying his child? Nope. In the Army's eyes, I was just a friend.
Without our piece of paper that says "hey, these guys love each other", I don't qualify for benefits, for his increase in pay to take care of our child, I cannot be put as his beneficiary should he die, etc.
Ignoring the fact that most insurance companies give fuck all about couples who have been together for 40 years but are unwed, there are other perks for being married, aside from just insurance, tax brackets, etc (Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples. If you're single, you're out of luck.) -- more sex, better sex, happiness, stability, security, etc.
Now, to clarify, do I believe that you should have to have a piece of paper to have these things? ABSOLUTELY NOT. But society deems it important, because it says so in a book somewhere, that was translated and re-translated 40 some odd times.
And as my best friend said, "There is a reason gays are fighting for the right to marry, and it's not all in a word".
(sorry, that should be for ThoughtsAblaze, not Androangel)