Would you want to move on?

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Would you want to move on?

HannahPanda HannahPanda
If you lost your lover in an accident, due to cancer, or any other tragic event, do you think you could move on eventually? I personally don't think I would want to or be able to move on if my partner were to be compromised by death.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Airen Wolf , Misfit Momma , ~LaUr3n~ , deletedacct , PassionQT , seeweed , Sinfully , Chirple , RonLee , Taylor , unfulfilled , P'Gell , (k)InkyIvy , geliebt , (Re)tired Stripper , Kitka
16
No
- Kira - , klyte , Ryuson , The Curious Couple , Peggi , shcoo , Chirple , LavenderSkies , SexyTabby , Checkmate , Ansley , Katelyn
12
I don't want to think about it
- Kira - , klyte , Airen Wolf , Ryuson , Daemonin , deletedacct , voenne , Sinfully , The Curious Couple , aimtoplease , felicitous fairy , js250 , jedent , wrmbreze , Peggi , shcoo , Valentinka , LavenderSkies , Lummox , SexyTabby , (k)InkyIvy , Vanille , Ansley , Katelyn , padmeamidala , geliebt , Holly Hox , MissCandyland , (Re)tired Stripper , allybee
30
Eventually
Gracie , deletedacct , voenne , bayosgirl , Ms. N , Drakoni , shcoo , slynch , Alura Une , (k)InkyIvy , geliebt , MissCandyland , (Re)tired Stripper , Kitka
14
Total votes: 72 (47 voters)
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12/04/2011
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klyte klyte
I don't like to think about this happening at all.
12/04/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
If you lost your lover in an accident, due to cancer, or any other tragic event, do you think you could move on eventually? I personally don't think I would want to or be able to move on if my partner were to be compromised by death.
My lovers want me to move on and be happy again. We have children so presumably I would need to move on for them if for no other reason.
12/04/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
I really don't think that I could
12/04/2011
Daemonin Daemonin
I would rather not think about it, not just because it is scary to think about, but also because I really don't know how I would be able to react.
12/04/2011
voenne voenne
Quote:
Originally posted by Ryuson
I really don't think that I could
Me neither, but eventually you would have to learn to. It would take a very, very long time. Your significant other would have wanted to you to be happy...
12/04/2011
seeweed seeweed
My wife wouldn't want me to remain miserable, much less be the cause of said miserable life.
12/04/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
Yes, but its not something I want to think about.
12/04/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I don't want to think about it, but I doubt I'd be able to move on, even if I wanted to.
12/04/2011
jedent jedent
can't be thinking about that.
12/05/2011
wrmbreze wrmbreze
I find it hard to even think about being without my husband. When we were first dating and we went home for the summer in college, I cried for the whole 2 weeks that we were apart.
12/05/2011
Chirple Chirple
I said yes and no.

I'd WANT to be able to, but I don't know if I could - it would depend on so many things.

I just feel that if you love someone, you're not going to want them to spend the rest of your life without them being sad or without. I'd want them to be happy again.
12/05/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
If you lost your lover in an accident, due to cancer, or any other tragic event, do you think you could move on eventually? I personally don't think I would want to or be able to move on if my partner were to be compromised by death.
No.
12/05/2011
RonLee RonLee
My situation is perhaps not typical but yes I have moved on.
12/05/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
I don't honestly think I could but I definitely don't want to spend time thinking about it.
12/05/2011
Taylor Taylor
I know I would move on. It would be hard but seeing my dad do it after my mom died in a car accident when I was little, it's clear to me that you can still love your partner after they are gone while still persuing a new relationship. It's not something you do right away, but the lonliness can be really hard on people. I know it was on my dad.

When I was 20, my boyfriend who I thought I was going to marry died in a motorcycle accident. For a few months I thought I was never going to be able to move on. Sure enough though I was ready to date someone else a couple of years later. I know that's not the same as someone who has been married to someone for many years, but it has given me some insight as to what it would probably feel like if I were ever in my dad's situation.
12/05/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't want to think about it, but I'd want either of us to move on if put in that position.
12/05/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I don't think about stuff like this often (my life presents enough real problems that I don't need to borrow other problems.)

Yes, I would move on. I do better when I am in a relationship, I do better when I get regular sex and I like being around a man all the time. I couldn't live happily alone.

My Man and I have discussed it and we both feel we would want to and need the other to move on and find an other lover if the unthinkable happened.
12/05/2011
Checkmate Checkmate
I doubt anyone would be able to put up with me as my wife of 42 years has, so I probably would remain alone. But that creates another problem,,,who's going to buy my underwear??
12/06/2011
Ansley Ansley
I don't know what I would do, because I haven't been faced with that *knocks on wood* and who is to say what our relationship would be like at that point. But if it happened today *knocks on wood*, I'd be devastated. I don't think anyone would be able to compare to the love we have and I'd be constantly comparing the two, so I'd focus on my writing career and come what may.
12/06/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by HannahPanda
If you lost your lover in an accident, due to cancer, or any other tragic event, do you think you could move on eventually? I personally don't think I would want to or be able to move on if my partner were to be compromised by death.
I don't like thinking about it. it's my worst fear.
12/06/2011
allybee allybee
I hate to think about that.
12/10/2011
(Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
I used to be really scared of that. I still hate it. I used to not enjoy getting close with anyone because of the fear of loss! I've had a lot of tragic loss in my childhood, so that may be why.

Lately I realize I am strong, I am my own person. It would be horrible to lose the love of my life, but I'd still have my inner strength, animals, friends, family, strangers, acquaintances, travel, interests, passions, hobbies, random first-world pleasures.

I'm not great at being single for long periods of time so I'd have to move on. I really flourish with companionship and touch and sex and nurturing. Any partner who I'd love so much to be devastated by their loss would want me to move on and be happy, absolutely.
12/10/2011
Kitka Kitka
This wouldn't be the first time thinking about it to be honest, but I would like to think that I would eventually move on if something like that happened.
12/10/2011
Total posts: 24
Unique posters: 24