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I ask because I am currently in a monogamous relationship. I closed it on up because my current partner wasn't comfortable with the idea of an open relationship, although he has never tried. Lately he's been reading into poly relationships
I ask because I am currently in a monogamous relationship. I closed it on up because my current partner wasn't comfortable with the idea of an open relationship, although he has never tried. Lately he's been reading into poly relationships and seems to be warming up to the idea. I don't want to pressure him into anything; I'd rather him come to a decision on his own. It would certainly be a change for us, though.
Have you heard any success stories or have been a success story of a monogamous relationship turned poly?
We are an example of how opening your relationship can work and actually make the realtionship better, stronger and deeper. So, yes, it can work but I will warn you it is HARD work and it takes a dogged commitment to learning to change your world views about sex, love and commitment. For some people it just doesn't work, for whatever reason, and they aren't happy in a non-monogamous relationship...and rarely do I find that these people are too jealous, mostly it takes a toll on the relationship because of time issues, or the enormous time spent on processing at first. It does get easier IF you are happy being non-monogamous but if you aren't then no amount of trying will work.
I would advise going very slow and roleplaying a bit, reading up on both successful and not so successful relationships and build your core relationship to be as strong as it can be...practice your communication (especially listening without judgement or defense) skills and generally take a breath and dream together a little. Let the energies settle and form and you might find a special someone or someones showing up in your life sort of natural like.
I am available to answer any questions you may have...just drop me a note!