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I think it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. Some monogamous couples aren't responsible enough for children, but some are. Some polyamorous relationships might not be the best environment for a child, but having three or more awesome
I think it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. Some monogamous couples aren't responsible enough for children, but some are. Some polyamorous relationships might not be the best environment for a child, but having three or more awesome parents in one house? That could be even better than having just two awesome parents in one house. I really don't see what sexual orientation or preference for number of partners has on somebody's ability to be a good parent. Some people are good parents, some are not, and I don't think it's fair to make a blanket statement (even if it's just an opinion) on whether or not people in polyamorous relationships are making a responsible or irresponsible choice by bringing children into it, because it really boils down to the individual people involved.
Why thank you Sweetheart!
I agree whole heartedly. There are some people I wouldn't want parenting regardless of their sexual preference or how many partners they hav in their beds and some people I know would be excellent parents scared to death because of their totally monogamous parents' style of child rearing.
My kids are better for the safety and security having three parents offers. They have all the advantages any child could ask for and they want for nothing. They have a full time stay at home Mom, a father that works from home, and a father that works 12 hour shifts and goes to college. They see what hard work, commitment and negotiation gets you in life. Oh and just for good measure, not even the two year old is confused about who Daddy is! That's just silly thinking, we don't learn who are parents are by never having interaction with other parents.
Anyhow, it isn't responsible or irresponsible to bring children into a poly relationship. There's nothing wrong with loving more than one partner and being happy! Why should children be denied the chance to see their parents happy, productive and loving? Why do we never ask if it's responsible to bring children into monogamous relationships? The stress and strain in raising children is the same regardless of the number of co-parents involved.
Makes me wonder what people who vote "irresponsible" think goes on in a poly household...