Do you have to be bisexual to get the most out of a polyamorous relationship that involves other men and women?

Do you have to be bisexual to get the most out of a polyamorous relationship that involves other men and women?

 
 
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callsignhusker callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal opinion. But I'm curious if being bisexual enables you to do that or if being Bi isn't a big deal etc...

Just wondering
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8  (15%)
40  (74%)
6  (11%)
Total votes: 54
Poll is open
03/07/2011
Destri Destri
I tend to agree with you that it would be a lot better if everyone was bi. I think a true poly relationship means everyone gets to be affectionate with everyone else and if one or more of the people involved are not able to do this, and not able to have sex with one another, it makes it sort of creepy. Just my opinion folks!
03/08/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
Remember though guys that you could have a poly relationship of lets say 3 guys that are all gay.. in other words remember that my question and poll are specific to a relationship larger than 2 people involving men and women. Thanks for the thoughtful response Destri!
03/08/2011
SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal ... More
I have to agree with you it deff is alot better if all parties involved were as affectionate with everyone so no one feel sleft out or excluded
03/09/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(Eden Lit)
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal ... More
My guys are completely heterosexual and they are still very affectionate with each other in a male sort of way (making silly jokes, laughing with each other and that sort of thing). We do enjoy having a threesome but we also enjoy each relationship in couples. It works nearly the same when they have female lovers. I am not bi-sexual but I enjoy group sex. Not being bi-sexual hasn't caused us to not feel affectionate and loving toward each other, the only thing we don't do is pair off in same sex for sex.

I fail to see why it's creepy that my guys don't have sex with each other but deeply love and care for each other...they don't have a sexual relationship but it doesn't stop them from caring about each other. To me the sentiment that 'if everyone isn't fucking in a relationship then it's creepy' smacks of reverse discimination.
03/10/2011
aBeastlyLittleThing aBeastlyLittleThing
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal ... More
no ways!
03/12/2011
ImABarbieGirl ImABarbieGirl
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal ... More
I dont think you have to be bi. If you want the most out of it - then maybe. But I dont think you "have" to be bi.
03/12/2011
BelleIsabelle15 BelleIsabelle15
I have a lot of three somes with my husband and other men, he's not bi, but I am ( something I just figured out), so we also have threesomes with another woman. Either way, it works.
03/17/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
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Originally posted by BelleIsabelle15
I have a lot of three somes with my husband and other men, he's not bi, but I am ( something I just figured out), so we also have threesomes with another woman. Either way, it works.
That's so cool, but what do you mean he's not bi, what do you mean you have threesomes with another guy, are you all affectionate with eachother or are just the guys affectionate with you?
03/17/2011
neon neon
i think it helps
04/03/2011
horngry horngry
it's better but you can do it without being bi too
04/13/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I think it does help, but really you just have to me okay with sleeping with the same sex. You dont have to label yourself.
05/12/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
I wonder if reponses to this poll have been wholly rational or are more grounded in wishful thinking.. Although, I must say, I like to think that anyone can get alot out of polyamory, not just bi's. Ty for all the responses
05/26/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
I think most people are bi/pan, and that they just don't know it because society hasn't told them it's OK. It helps to at least be open to the possibility of being with men and women.
Jan 2, 9:31 pm
chibi1091 chibi1091
I think the answer is circumstantial and depends on the people involved, so it's hard to say.
Jan 12, 9:34 am
Badass Badass
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Originally posted by callsignhusker
Personally I don't see gender as a big barrier like some people. I'm comfortable saying I'm a Bi male though.. I think in a polyamorous relationship its better if everyone feels like they can be affectionate with everyone else. That's my personal ... More
i think it expands your options a lot. lol
Jan 23, 10:07 am
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
how does being bisexual help the relationship? I think a lot of you are misunderstanding what a poly amorous relationship is in the first place. I gotta echo Airen on this one lol
Jan 23, 10:14 am
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(Eden Lit)
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Originally posted by Ms. Spice
how does being bisexual help the relationship? I think a lot of you are misunderstanding what a poly amorous relationship is in the first place. I gotta echo Airen on this one lol
It could add a dimension to the sex but as far as the relationship itself? Not as important, at least for us. Sigel and Arch are affectionate and they show it in many little ways they just have no interest in having sex with each other! Given that one of our kinks is power play and group sex they do have SOME things they do that could be considered sexual but they don't get down and dirty. I've had experiences where our third is bi and it's great but to be honest it isn't all that different in the long run. Each have their own dimentions and high points, if that makes sense.
Jan 31, 3:21 pm
Apirka Apirka
No, I don't think so.
Mar 3, 1:32 pm
Tangles Tangles
They wouldn't get any more than straight or gay people, no.
Apr 2, 7:48 pm
beatingthebinary beatingthebinary
I'm not sure what "the most" means in this context - if everyone is happy with the situation and is getting what they want from it, then that rocks. I don't think orientation has a huge effect on that.
May 18, 4:26 am
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Unique posters: 16