Jealousy?

sugarOne sugarOne
Do you ever get jealous with sharing your other partner? Is a form of jealousy healthy in the relationship? How do you know your poly?
08/27/2010
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you ever get jealous with sharing your other partner? Is a form of jealousy healthy in the relationship? How do you know your poly?
Wow so many questions LOL
Yes there are times I get jealous of Sigel and his playmates. Generally this happens when my needs are not being met, or I feel my concerns are being ignored. I take responsibility for meeting my needs and expressing my concerns in an adult and clear manner, however, and I don't allow jealousy to take over. I do believe jealousy can be healthy in a relationship as it can point to problems that won;t go away by ignoring them. It can be destructive but so can fire...still if you want cooked food you need to learn to control and temper fire and I belive the same can and should be done with jealousy.

I know I am poly because I have an intense need to build loving relationships that include all forms of intimacy with my husband and others. This is the lovestyle that makes me happiest and allows me to fully grow and become.
08/28/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you ever get jealous with sharing your other partner? Is a form of jealousy healthy in the relationship? How do you know your poly?
I am not poly amorous. But I am contributing because I guess I am one of the few that jealousy is a turn on for me. When I dated someone with lots of experience I would ask her all kinds of questions about her ex lovers (and there were many in the 70's).

I researched jealousy and swinging, there is an article out on that (those who continue to swing are generally less jealous than those who drop out).

When I first used a dildo with my wife, I was really jealous of it! This turn on fueled more sessions with it.

Anyways, I can't help you with the reality of jealousy and partner sharing. But I feel that the jealousy within our/my fantasy really fuels my passion!
08/28/2010
Vexed Vexed
Yes, I do feel jealous some times. I rarely feel jealous when the woman that I'm dating is with her husband. On the other hand, when she is with her other boyfriend I do feel jealous at times.
10/18/2010
trios trios
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Originally posted by Vexed
Yes, I do feel jealous some times. I rarely feel jealous when the woman that I'm dating is with her husband. On the other hand, when she is with her other boyfriend I do feel jealous at times.
wow!
10/18/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Vexed
Yes, I do feel jealous some times. I rarely feel jealous when the woman that I'm dating is with her husband. On the other hand, when she is with her other boyfriend I do feel jealous at times.
Could be a small fear that she will be spending more time with him, or that she will decide she likes him more. It's a common set of fears and only time will truly help with that. Hell, I still get jealous of Sigel's playmates but generally I can dismiss the fear of him leaving. For cripes sake he's been here for 25 years he ain't leaving now!

Wish you the best Vexed, even the roughest seas can lead to an amazing catch!
10/20/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by sugarOne
Do you ever get jealous with sharing your other partner? Is a form of jealousy healthy in the relationship? How do you know your poly?
I think all people get jealous sometimes, but how you handle it is what is important. Just love yourself and have confidence and trust your partner. beyond that open relationships, flings, and group sex is amazing.
11/13/2010
kitti kitti
i do.. and always.. i create scandals.. ))
11/14/2010
RosesThorns RosesThorns
I do, its why I moved away from Poly.
12/21/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by trios
I am not poly amorous. But I am contributing because I guess I am one of the few that jealousy is a turn on for me. When I dated someone with lots of experience I would ask her all kinds of questions about her ex lovers (and there were many in the ... More
Nice to meet a guy who doesn't mind some jealousy.
I personally like a guy becoming a little jealous and I get get myself but find most are turned off by it.
12/22/2010
sweet seduction sweet seduction
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Originally posted by Shellz31
Nice to meet a guy who doesn't mind some jealousy.
I personally like a guy becoming a little jealous and I get get myself but find most are turned off by it.
Yes it is
01/06/2011
Autumn Brent Autumn Brent
I do get jelous sometimes. It depends, if he has express permission to do something then I have no problem with it, if he say, fucks up by making out with someone while drunk and he didn't have permission, then I have a problem, though it's still not really jelousy, more that I'm offended that she presumed that he was cheating on me at the time and mad at him for not asking permission first. We have something I can't quite quantify, we've been together for 5 years and I don't think we're exactly polyamorous because we only love eachother but occasionally, with permission from the other party, have sex with another person. Sometimes that person has become very close to us but it wasn't love, we did care for them though. The funny thing is that whatever we have, we are closer and more open about everything than any other couple we know, we're also happier than any other couple we know so we must be doing something right.
01/08/2011
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