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I think polyamory requires a certain amount of maturity that might be developed with age. I have been dating a 32 year old who introduced me to polyamory for over a year and have been dating a 20 year old woman for about 6 months who is having
I think polyamory requires a certain amount of maturity that might be developed with age. I have been dating a 32 year old who introduced me to polyamory for over a year and have been dating a 20 year old woman for about 6 months who is having trouble wrapping her head around the idea. I am mostly monogomous but I also think I am able to handle polyamory fairly well. I was wondering if most younger people consider open realitionships over polyamory because an open relationship requires less trust, communication and commitment. All things which require maturity. When I went to polyhour in the city I was the youngest person there, most people were middle aged and I was a sophmore in college. any imput? how old are you and when did you start poly lifestyle?
An open relationship requires the same amount of trust as a poly one or a monogamous one. Just because you don't develop an emotional bond with anyone outside a partnership doesn't mean you don't have to be able to 100% trust your partner.
I am in a poly triad that is a V formation and on one side my partner is monogamous with me and on the other my partner is open. My mono partner is open to being poly but doesn't feel the need to have meaningless sex...though he is open to the idea. My open partner chooses his other partners very carefully and is open to poly but prefers meaningless sex.
Both sides of the equation require me to have the same amount of trust, communication and level of commitment. It's a fallacy to believe that ANY relationship can survive healthily without deep trust, good communication and some level of commitment.
I am 40, Sigel is 41 and Arch is 25. We began our poly lifestyle back when Sigel and I were 21 though we just didn't know what to call it. It was lack of trust and communication that killed that relationship. This relationship is strong and we are totally committed to our family as a whole.
Generally the ones who feel confident to come out and admit their poly-ness are in their early 30s and up but I don't believe that there aren't plenty of college students who are just as poly as their older counhterparts.