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I've been on OKCupid for ages, and nothing, no one will even talk to me most of the time, and of they do I get dropped after about 3 messages. Like I said, the BDSM groups and the munches they host are all full of guys, and I don't want to
I've been on OKCupid for ages, and nothing, no one will even talk to me most of the time, and of they do I get dropped after about 3 messages. Like I said, the BDSM groups and the munches they host are all full of guys, and I don't want to meet guys. So I guess I'm just stuck.
Most of my hobbies are for an older demographic, so I rarely meet anyone my age at events like that, it's always people that are a minimum of 10 years older then me.
I am taking a wild stab in the dark with this next thing.
It may also be if you are being specific. I don't want to be jugey, but in my experience the more specific you are in what you are looking for, the harder it is to find.
I started poly looking for a unicorn. (hot bi chick that will be into both me and my male partner). I wanted her to be open to polyfidelity with us. She had to have similar interests. She had to be sane and willing to communicate her needs well. She also had to be single without any other partners.
I haven't found her.
Instead, I found a Lesbian that loved me and my husband (non sexually for him), but had serious sexual hiccups and attention issues that made us incompatible and we parted ways.
I found a bisexual dominant man that has become a life partner to, not only me, but my hetero husband. They aren't sexual together, but they also can't imagine life without the other.
I'm not saying that being specific is bad, but it does mean that your pool is limited. I am sure my perfect woman is out there, but for me, it wasn't worth the wait.