Have you and your significant other ever been to a sex club?

AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, it was incredible.
5  (5%)
Yes, it was okay.
3  (3%)
Yes, it wasn't what I hoped for.
No, but I'd like to.
44  (42%)
Not no but hell no.
54  (51%)
Total votes: 106
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06/11/2012
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Badass Badass
I would love to go and just watch, but I don't think I could ever be involved with actually being involved.
06/11/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I don't know if I'd ever go to one, but it's one of my favorite fantasies.
06/11/2012
Azule Azule
I think I would just go to watch, not sure about the participate part though.
06/11/2012
Rossie Rossie
I don't mind watching, but will never participate.
06/11/2012
Taylor Taylor
Maybe I'm just ignorant, but what is a sex club? Like a swingers club, or is it something else? I live in a very conservative part of the country, so maybe we just don't have them here.

Even at BDSM events and things we've gone to, I've never seen someone having sex at at one of these. It simply is not allowed
06/11/2012
HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
We have never been to one but I would love to go! Of course living in South Georgia we would have to drive 3-4 hrs. to the nearest one.
06/12/2012
Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
No, no and no!
06/12/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
When I was younger I would have been interested - but would never have convinced my wife to go. I'm pretty much past that idea now.
06/12/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I went with the hell no option.
06/12/2012
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Taylor
Maybe I'm just ignorant, but what is a sex club? Like a swingers club, or is it something else? I live in a very conservative part of the country, so maybe we just don't have them here.

Even at BDSM events and things we've gone to, ... More
Basically, you go to a sex club and usually pay an entry fee (or possibly get an actual membership, I never looked that far into it). Then everyone within is allowed to have sex pretty much as they please - you can stick with the person/people you came in with, watch, or everyone can just meander about and have fun with everyone. There's probably some rules that change a bit from place to place, but the basic idea is pretty straightforward.

Don't know where any are located, though I'd love to know even though I'd probably be too shy to enter. And I'm pretty sure it's not illegal, since you only pay to get in while the sex is free, so it's not prostitution or anything.
06/12/2012
mistre$$ mistre$$
Nope, I wouldn't be into that.
06/12/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I joined a local BDSM club and I mainly go for the conversation and potlucks. Is that strange? I don't participate often (I the two years I've been going I've participated once, I think) but I do watch. It's also a great place to get tips and advice and safety classes on the things I'm interested in. I'm eager to show my partner the club when they come down.
06/12/2012
G&L G&L
The wife and I talk about watching other people have sex and being watched, but as far as the actual act is a strong no. So just bringing the thought of another partner in the mix is a Strong fuck no.
06/13/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
No, no and no!
. . . and, no, no, and NO! Period!!
06/13/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
Sigel used to help at nights at one a few years back. He would walk the parking lot making sure no one got hurt and replaced condom baskets and stuff. He quite liked it, actually.
06/14/2012
woofcub woofcub
I would like to go at least once to see what its like and learn more about what other toys and kinks are out there, as far as participating especially with anyone thats not my partner hell NO.
06/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Heck no, I wouldn't do this.
06/14/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
um no i wouldnt ever do that
06/15/2012
Deeder Deeder
Umm, no. Neither one of us can stand the thought of seeing the other with someone else, and I think it would just be too awkward.
06/20/2012
Bittenflame Bittenflame
Never have simply because, those are a hub for herpes.
06/21/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
Don't want to due to health risks
06/21/2012
MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Basically, you go to a sex club and usually pay an entry fee (or possibly get an actual membership, I never looked that far into it). Then everyone within is allowed to have sex pretty much as they please - you can stick with the person/people you ... More
The post above isn't exactly accurate.

Please allow me to elaborate.

I feel like this is such a misconception about the community, so I will say this more than once.

ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.

Most clubs require a screening/interview prior to being granted entry. The interview can be in person or over the phone and they usually require speaking with both partners (assuming it's not a single M or F).

After the interview if you are invited to attend the club, you must pay a membership fee to the club. The fee can be charged annually, semi annually, quarterly, monthly, or lifetime. In addition to the membership fee, a couple would typically also be required to pay a nightly entrance fee - pretty much like a cover charge at any nightclub.

The fees are to offset the cost of running the club. Things like lights, water, rental space, keeping the place clean, laundry, security, DJ, bartender, maintenance like a broken light bulb or a leaky pipe, etc.

Most clubs are BYOB, because most clubs do not possess a liquor license. Most clubs supply mixers (juice, soda, garnishes, etc) and have a paid or volunteer bartender.

Clubs are pretty much like you would expect of any typical nightclub. There are people dancing, people mingling, people sitting, standing at the bar, etc.

Men are dressed in typical night club attire - nice jeans, button down shirts, or nicer shirts. Women are welcome to wear as much or as little as they are comfortable with. Some walk around naked, some only in panties, some in teeny tiny dresses, and some jeans and a t shirt. The majority of women wear mini dresses or dance wear unless there is a theme to the evening (Hawaiian, Polka Dot, School Girl, etc) then the women dress in costume accordingly.

There is a separate section of the club for “play.” Play could be anything from masturbation, oral sex, BDSM, play with toys, voyeurism, to actual sex. It can be with your own partner, someone you just met, someone you meet while you are in the room, several someones, etc. The key take away here is that:


ALL PLAY IS CONSENSUAL BETWEEN 1 OR MORE ADULTS.



No means no. That means asking before you touch someone, watch someone, etc. If someone says no, it’s not up for discussion “Oh why not?”

I would say that most swingers attend the clubs and do not get laid 100% of the time. We probably full swap (all sexual acts are up for discussion) about 1 out of every three times that we attend, and have soft swapped (everything but penetration) maybe 1 out of every 20. Most swingers go because they like the atmosphere that the clubs provide. It’s a chance to be yourself, not be judged, and have a little fun if the opportunity presents itself.

I want to stress that the money that is being exchanged does not guarantee anything. The money is a donation that you are making towards the maintenance and upkeep of your club.

Prostitutes take money for sex. Swingers just want an even exchange – nobody is paying me to participate, or to accept any offers that come my way.

You can find locations for sex clubs/parties in your area with a simple google search -or by joining one of the many swinger online communities.
07/12/2012
Charry Charry
I'd love to try it out sometime, even just once.
07/12/2012
MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
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Originally posted by Bittenflame
Never have simply because, those are a hub for herpes.
What is your basis for this statement? I find it inflammatory.
07/12/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
Nope, but we'd like to try at some point
07/12/2012
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by AHubbyof2SexualMinds
My wife and I have been fantasizing about going to an upscale sex club and watching and or participating in some of the fun. Have you ever tried this?
Can't see us doing anything like that...
07/12/2012
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
I don't think he'd like to go, but I'd be fine with trying it out.
07/12/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
We enjoy yourselves enough that we don't need to go to any clubs.
07/12/2012
Ashley B Ashley B
It's not for me.
07/12/2012
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Unique posters: 65