First off, my husband is an alcoholic. About 3years ago things got so bad I just shut him out, I didn't know how to deal w/ his drinking and raise our young son. I felt like I has the only one keeping everything together, it seemed all he cared about was his Jack & having sex. Who wants to deal w/ the finances, take care of a child, work part-time & come home to a drunk husband? When it came to sex I would literally push him away....granted he was always intoxicated. And eventually I nolonger had any desire to have sex at all...it was like I was in Mommy Mode. He would actually tell me he was gonna find someone else, but I had always trusted him unconditionally.....I was so sure he would never actually do it. Then I accidentally found some very explicit text messages between him and a girl he works with. I confronted him, he got mad, said it was all just talk & it was just because I pushed him away for all those years. It was a wake-up call for me, I knew I had pushed him away, so I let him in & awakened my sex drive again. I fell in love with him all over agaion. But he is still very close to this other woman & whenever I get upset about it he says I do not have to compete w/ her. What should I do? I don't want to loose him but I really think he is being very selfish & never considers how his actions make me feel. HELP!!!