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You don't have to answer if you don't want to... but I am curious... I'd like to know if any of you are open swingers. My husband and I are just starting to get into the "lifestyle"... but we haven't had any encounters yet.
You don't have to answer if you don't want to... but I am curious... I'd like to know if any of you are open swingers. My husband and I are just starting to get into the "lifestyle"... but we haven't had any encounters yet. We're planning on going to our first swingers club this weekend. We're not into full swapping. I'm curious to know if there are any others here that could give us some advice or let us know what to expect...
We are members of a couple of sites, and we talk to some of the couples on there, but I want to try to get a broader opinion... TIA for sharing!!
My husband and I are in the lifestyle. We are not one of those couples who feels the need to get with others like every weekend, yet we will occasionally go to a swingers club, or meet up with other people.
My favorite website so far is link
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, but I am super frugal, and I don't like paying a yearly cost when I can just pay a lifetime fee for SLS.
Here is my advice to you and your husband (it is the advice I give ALL people who are new to the lifestyle):
1. PRACTICE OPEN COMMUNICATION! I put that in caps because I AM yelling it. Communication is essential when in the lifestyle. Both you and your husband need to make sure that the other one always knows what you are wanting, needing, and feeling.
2. Never "take one for the team". This is a rule that you should have. If this rule is not present, someone may become a little bitter, and that is never good.
3. Discuss your rules with your partner. Different couples have different rules, and everyone will respect whatever rules that you two come up with. If they don't, well, then they are not worth playing with in the first place.
Also know that the rules you set now do not have to be the same a year from now. My husband and I started out with soft swap and a few years into it I decided that I wanted to full swap. It is on a pretty rare occasion that we still full swap, but from time to time I have an interest. Over time we needed to change our rules to be comfortable.
If you want any more info please feel free to contact me, and I would be glad to talk to you more about this.