How long does newlywed bliss last?

Timaree Timaree
How long until that shine fades a little? Does it matter how long you were together before getting hitched? Or if you lived together already?
08/29/2010
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Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
How long until that shine fades a little? Does it matter how long you were together before getting hitched? Or if you lived together already?
I think it all depends on the couple really, and by what the expectations of newlywed bliss are. I've been married to my husband for what will be 7 years in two weeks, and we've been together for a little over 9 years. We still for the most part live in bliss and are madly in love with each other and still have that initial spark.

But it's not always sunshine and rainbows, in all relationships there are going to be arguments and disagreements, people being cranky for one reason or another, and I think in most close relationships at least every now and then someone takes something out on their partner that really has nothing to do with them. So, I guess in that sense after a while the newlywed bliss fades.

I don't think that it's marriage that causes relationships to start "getting real". So I don't think it matters how long before marriage people were together or if they lived together before marriage.
08/29/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm one of the lucky ones - 21 years and counting. I'm not saying we're still on our honeymoon or anything - but in many ways its better. Everyone knows there will be bumps along the road - but early on we had the never go to bed angry rule, it helps a lot.
08/29/2010
Muddog7998 Muddog7998
Hey there,

I got married to my wife very recently, June 20th to be exact, and I still have the same "bliss" I had as I watched her get out of the limo and walk up to me and our pastor. I knew her for 2 years prior, and I think that living with each other prior to marriage was an awesome idea; I do think that it has helped keep the bliss(Due to current circumstances, I can't live with my wife right now... I still think about her everyday, and knowing what its like to have been living with her helps keep my head up!).

Just look at the things you love about your partner. Always remember the wedding (or the renewal, whichever was better=^.^=) and you will always have the happiness and love.

Oh! Almost forgot... Yes, it does not matter how long you were together before getting hitched, DEPENDING on the relationship. If you both have been together for a while, you know each other, understand each other, and have a strong base needed for marriage(unless you can't stand each other for more than 5 minutes), and you will both have a great relationship that will keep the bliss alive.

Now, look at the run-away marriages... The people in question have been dating for a few months, if even, and then run off to Las Vegas, or where ever, to get hitched. Yes, the love may be there, but 2-3 months later, they are fighting, and the bliss is gone, followed hotly by divorce paperwork...

Now I understand that yes, some of the "Run-away" marriages work. I am not saying that they never work, and I meant no harm to anyone married in that fashion. I'm just saying, I personally think that length of time together before marriage is much better.

Hope this wasn't too long... I have a tendency to ramble sometimes...
09/01/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm one of the lucky ones - 21 years and counting. I'm not saying we're still on our honeymoon or anything - but in many ways its better. Everyone knows there will be bumps along the road - but early on we had the never go to bed angry ... More
Same with us, minus a year.

Love IS what you make it.
09/01/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm one of the lucky ones - 21 years and counting. I'm not saying we're still on our honeymoon or anything - but in many ways its better. Everyone knows there will be bumps along the road - but early on we had the never go to bed angry ... More
14 years married here, 15+ together. Although the 'honeymoon' was over long ago, we still love each other just as much and are committed to our journey together.

As each relationship develops, new factors come in (kids etc..), things can change. I think that is what most people mean by the idea of marriage getting "real". It isn't a fairytale, it can at times be a lot of hard work, and very fulfilling at the same time. I think there's nothing better than getting old with your best friend, spark or no spark left. But that's just me
09/01/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
Well we've been together a little over 5 years, and have been married almost 5 years, and I'd say at times we are still going strong, but then you do have times you aren't. So it's more so the bliss, then the not. If that makes sense! lol
09/01/2010
ScottA ScottA
It depends on the attitude of the couple. If you commit to work on the things that need to be worked on (your things, not your spouse's things), accept and live with the things that need to be accepted, and make an effort to show your love to each other it can last a long time. If you expect it all to just happen through the magic of love then you'll run into trouble.
09/01/2010
Sera Sera
Quote:
Originally posted by Alicia
I think it all depends on the couple really, and by what the expectations of newlywed bliss are. I've been married to my husband for what will be 7 years in two weeks, and we've been together for a little over 9 years. We still for the most ... More
Yeah, it depends on the couple.
11/06/2010
Illusional Illusional
Sooo romantic. <3
11/06/2010
CS2012 CS2012
It just depends on the couple.
11/11/2010
Anne Ardeur Anne Ardeur
We've been married four years and together for six. The biggest novelty was after we got married actually being able to live together (yay long-distance relationships). That was a difficult adjustment, and very novel at first, but now things are settled down and quite... comfortable, I guess. It's not always perfect, but we work on fixing what needs to be fixed and improving things for both of us.
11/16/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by Timaree
How long until that shine fades a little? Does it matter how long you were together before getting hitched? Or if you lived together already?
Together 1.5 rs b4 marriage lived together after 4mo. married 3.5yrs. still in honeymoon And totally in love! with just a little effort I think the honeymoon can last forever!
11/16/2010
Mr. E Mr. E
20+ years and I am more in love with my wife than ever.
11/16/2010
Not here Not here
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Originally posted by Mr. E
20+ years and I am more in love with my wife than ever.
Awww, that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. There IS hope for a lasting marriage, even amidst all the broken marriages and divorce everywhere.
11/16/2010
BigDaddy10 BigDaddy10
I have been married for 6yrs and am still so in love with her to this day.
11/16/2010
Plady Plady
We are hitting ten years this year and are still newlyweds. Of course this is marriage number two for both of us so we learned from our mistakes.
01/29/2011
DancerLove DancerLove
Not long, of course, I dont have the usual type of guy. He's never intimate or romantic, so I can't really say that I had that bliss.
04/27/2011
indiglo indiglo
I agree with everyone. I think it also depends on your definition of "newlywed bliss". To me, that notion seems like it refers to a fairly shallow or superficial relationship, like romantic dates all the time, champagne and chocolates, flower petals on the bed, candles and violin music, etc. And that just isn't real life. (Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with that stuff, it just isn't realistic in everyday life.) On the other hand, however, real life is far more romantic to me. I love it that we can have an argument, and then talk it over and feel more connected than ever. I like that I can tell him "I love you but you're making me insane right now". I like being able to talk to him while I sit on the toilet peeing. I like watching a ball game together and yelling at the ump. I like talking about how we should spend our money and working out the way to get the most bang for our buck. And I love the freedom that comes with knowing I can vehemently disagree with him on a lot of topics (and tell him so) and still want to fuck him silly.



Maybe it's me, but I think the notion of newlywed bliss is overrated. Give me the REAL STUFF any day of the week. Because I know the real stuff will last and will act like an anchor in a storm to bring us back to each other every time things get rough.
04/27/2011
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
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Originally posted by Timaree
How long until that shine fades a little? Does it matter how long you were together before getting hitched? Or if you lived together already?
HUMM IT DEPENDS
04/27/2011
purplekidney purplekidney
She: We were together just over 4.5 years before getting married and lived together for two of them. I'll let him go first on the newlywed bliss part.

He: Eight months in and it's still bliss.

She: I knew you'd have something nice to say. Probably because I'm sitting right with him. But seriously, I'd have to agree. There have been some really hard things, but overall it's been the best time together we've had.
04/29/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
I think it depends on the couple. I cant really say for sure. I know that I love my husband more than when we got married and that was 3 1/2yrs ago. Back when we were still engaged, I was chatting with this customer at my old job and she told me that her and her husband were still 'honeymooning' after 66yrs of marriage and were about to celebrate 67yrs and felt like two giddy teenagers with googly eyes for each other. I desperatly want to be like that.

My husband's uncle said the honeymoon is over when (direct quote): "you can take a shit while they're also in the bathroom." Hehe. I love his uncle!
05/08/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
I truly feel in the right relationship it lasts forever.
05/09/2011
jc123 jc123
The loving each other part just gets better every day for us. In terms of sex, though, I think it depends. Also, it is cyclical. We were in a bit of a "slump" and hadn't had sex in about 6 months as of our wedding day, and for another long time afterward (no, no honeymoon sex). We had been together for 4 years and knew we would get through it, so it wasn't a big deal to us.

Right now, we're in a really heavy sex cycle and are doing it at least as often as ever.
06/10/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I was with my husband for so long before we were married that our twitterpation ended before the honeymoon even began!
06/29/2011
lilmamma lilmamma
I dunno.. I think we steriotype the "honeymoon stage" so much that we just think that thats how it is.. I dont think it ever has to end if you know how to really listen, pay attention, and take care of one another.. I have known people who were the cutest couple ever and you could tell they were crazy about each other and then 6 months after the honeymoon were talking about splitting up. I've also known older couples who have always acted as if they were just married since they were just married.I think alot of it has to do with false expectations and bad communication. We all expect marriage to be a fairytale with no more problems cuz our prince has come to rescue us or for guys they have found their princess, but reality is bills, kids, work, stress, exc.. and we have these high expectations of what its gonna be like when we get married, then when its not exactly like that we become resentful.. My husband and I are still in what is considered the "honeymoon stage" after 3 years, 2 babies, and dealing with everything that comes along with all of that. We get teased about it all the time. But I think it should be like that. I think we should always LONG to be with our love, and if we're not, maybe try to figure out a way to put that spark back in there.
07/13/2011
N&M N&M
It almost seems to come and go. It can easily come back, but there is an old saying, "marriage is a lot of work". You really have to keep at it if you want it to be there, don't just expect it to be newlywed bliss on its own.
08/10/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
As long as you can keep from falling into routines.
08/10/2011
AndromedaJane AndromedaJane
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
How long until that shine fades a little? Does it matter how long you were together before getting hitched? Or if you lived together already?
Lasted until we had a kid...9 months later. =P
11/08/2011
duff duff
4 yrs in deeply in love. We show eachother everyday.
11/10/2011
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