Black Rings

Envy Envy
So i was told that when you break up from a real meaningful relationship and just don't want to date after it, you wear a black ring on your ring finger. I then found out it's also done when your spouse dies.

Anyway, i like the idea since I had a pretty bad breakup a few months ago, and I still cry over it, (he was my first bf ever and he cheated on me, picked the other girl over me, and then when confronted he justified his actions and then later he ditched his friends and family and ran out of his home with her before Father's Day and hasn't been home since), and I can't for the life of me even think about dating again. I had a short rebound episode, but I got out of it quickly and felt even worse.

Anyway, anyone have any thoughts on this? The carbide rings look nice, just i need to get one of those things to measure my fingers for ring sizes, though.

What have you guys done after breaking up that was symbolizing your mourning or the fact you weren't ready to date again? I'm curious to others' stories.
07/04/2011
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P'Gell P'Gell
I have never heard of this. If it makes you feel better, then do it.

I have a black thumb ring, but it doesn't signify anything. I wouldn't want someone to think that it does.

When I didn't want to date, I simply said, "I'm not ready to start dating again. Talk to me in a few weeks." I didn't feel the need to symbolize something that might not be understood. Being upfront and honest with any person who wants to date you should be enough.

07/04/2011
CarmenGore262 CarmenGore262
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
So i was told that when you break up from a real meaningful relationship and just don't want to date after it, you wear a black ring on your ring finger. I then found out it's also done when your spouse dies.

Anyway, i like the idea ... More
I have never done anything like this,but cry.
07/04/2011
Misfit Momma Misfit Momma
Have never heard of anything like this, but I quite like the idea. Sorry that you had to go through a bad breakup!
07/04/2011
Kindred Kindred
I think it depends on why you want to wear a black ring. If it's a symbolic gesture on your part that has significance, then sure, go ahead. But if it's to let others know that you are not ready to date, I think the meaning will probably be lost on most.

I don't think I would personally do it. The black seems to symbolize mourning, and I'm not sure I would want people to know that. I feel like it is somehow giving the ex-significant other power that they do not deserve to have given the cause of your break-up.
07/04/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
I've never heard of that.

I suppose you'd need to either live in an area where a lot of people know about it, or tell people about it, in order to have it work as you hope.
07/04/2011
Dusk Dusk
I've never heard of that! Seems interesting. I remember after a bad breakup once I considered chopping my hair off, because I remembered some manga character having done that in a series I liked.

I decided in the end it would make me more miserable, lol.
07/04/2011
Rey Rey
i've never heard of this but it does make sense.
06/29/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
I've never heard of this either, but it's a pretty cool idea!
06/29/2012
Nirelan Nirelan
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Originally posted by Dusk
I've never heard of that! Seems interesting. I remember after a bad breakup once I considered chopping my hair off, because I remembered some manga character having done that in a series I liked.

I decided in the end it would make me more ... More
I really want to cut my hair again, it's so liberating for me and it grows back
06/29/2012
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