Is it okay for a single person to just sleep around?

mailroomorder mailroomorder
I am single and I LOVE sleeping around. My friends think I'm a slut. I think I just like to feel good and experience the physical pleasures of the flesh without hang ups or a relationship.
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Yes
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No
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It depends
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I don't know
Total votes: 54 (52 voters)
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06/30/2013
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SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
As long as you're safe about it...
06/30/2013
Aishiteru Aishiteru
Although sleeping around isn't for me, I consider it alright as long as you're not hurting anyone; aren't sleeping with another person's partner without their permission and are preventing the spread of stds.
06/30/2013
Fluke Fluke
You'll never hear a guy telling his friends that but it is quite common for girls to call each other slut and act all high and mighty. Whatever.

When you are young I say it is more healthy to just sleep around and don't get attached. As long as you are being safe and not hurting anyone, more power to you.
07/01/2013
mr115393 mr115393
Be safe and don't do anything you're not comfortable with. As long as you're doing that, you're totally fine.
07/01/2013
CamoCutie CamoCutie
In my teens I was the same way. My girlfriends and close guy friends would constantly tell me how i'm being a whore or a slut, same thing in my eyes, but those same guy friends would turn around and sleep with as many girls as they pleased and then were "rewarded" so to say about it from other guys. It makes no sense. I was single, all the guys I slept with were single, and we were safe. I saw no problem with it.
07/01/2013
Taylor Taylor
I think it is up to the individual to decide what is right for them. I, for example, would say it's not okay for me, simply because I know it would hurt my heart and self image. However I know not everyone feels that way and if they are having fun and it doesn't hurt themselves or anyone else, then they should do what they like.
07/01/2013
Castielskitten Castielskitten
For me, it depends pretty much on the other partner. If the other partner is someone else's lover, then no, I don't think it's right especially if you know they have someone else.
But if they don't, *shrugs* I don't see what's wrong with it as long as protection is in place and you both agree.
07/01/2013
babyrock babyrock
sure, life is for you to enjoy. just be careful along the way.
07/01/2013
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by mailroomorder
I am single and I LOVE sleeping around. My friends think I'm a slut. I think I just like to feel good and experience the physical pleasures of the flesh without hang ups or a relationship.
So long as you are taking care of your health and being responsible there's no reason you should feel ashamed of liking to have sex or multiple partners.
07/01/2013
wicked48 wicked48
Yes, as long as you're safe. I wish I would have slept around when I was younger!
07/01/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
If you have friends who judge you and call you a slut, then perhaps you need new friends. Even if my friend is doing something I do not agree with, I would never demean them or call them names. I can see concern for your safety or your emotional well being being expressed in a constructive way but to call you a slut is unacceptable especially if they are supposed be your friend. Life is too short to have pretend friends.
07/01/2013
Edeneve Edeneve
it really depends on your own morals and values. personally, I wouldn't have unprotected sex - EVER, or w/ someone where a third party would get hurt.
07/01/2013
butts butts
stay safe and be happy! As long as you're not hurting or endangering anyone (or yourself), what's wrong with sleeping around? The social pressure to "not be a slut" is bullshit useless, who gives a damn. Be happy.
07/02/2013
SickOnSin SickOnSin
If you were sleeping with a different person each and every day. It'd be unsafe and ya quite a bit slutty. But hey if that's what you like to do... Go For It. It's your body and your life. If they think your a slut that's their opinion. Personally I'd say, "Yes I am" and smile.
07/02/2013
No-nita No-nita
Quote:
Originally posted by mailroomorder
I am single and I LOVE sleeping around. My friends think I'm a slut. I think I just like to feel good and experience the physical pleasures of the flesh without hang ups or a relationship.
Nothing wrong with that. Keep safe and do what makes you happy.

"Slut" is a word some people have reclaimed and wear the label proudly. You could be one of those people if you want to.
07/02/2013
CindyH CindyH
as long as u us protection
07/03/2013
HannahPanda HannahPanda
If it's legal, consentual, and safe, of course!
07/03/2013
indiechick indiechick
Quote:
Originally posted by mailroomorder
I am single and I LOVE sleeping around. My friends think I'm a slut. I think I just like to feel good and experience the physical pleasures of the flesh without hang ups or a relationship.
I don't think it's up to anyone else to decide if it's okay or not. Be safe with who ever you are with, but who cares
07/03/2013
TransMarc TransMarc
As long as you're safe, mindful of others and their consent and get tested regularly, you do what you want, it's your life!
07/03/2013
TJax TJax
Your friends are prudes if they think that a single woman can't just sleep with who ever she wants. The only thing they should be worrying about is that you are being safe about it.
07/03/2013
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Why not, as long as you are being safe.
07/05/2013
Cinnyree Cinnyree
it is no one, not even your friends', place to judge you. Answer to yourself and move on.
07/06/2013
Isola Isola
Quote:
Originally posted by Aishiteru
Although sleeping around isn't for me, I consider it alright as long as you're not hurting anyone; aren't sleeping with another person's partner without their permission and are preventing the spread of stds.
Agreed.
07/07/2013
Etonia Etonia
Personally I don't sleep around, I prefer to refrain from having sex with others unless its a deep relationship. But not everyone is like that and that's fine as long as you're safe about doing it.
07/08/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
Yes, as long as you're safe about it.

I'm single and go on a ton of dates. I don't sleep with my dates because I a minimum number of dates rule and rarely care enough about a guy to stick around that long, but I don't see why it's any different to sleep around. As long as you're not cheating on anyone, being the "other woman/man", or being unsafe, it's perfectly fine.
09/20/2013
melliegirl melliegirl
just be safe. who you sleep with is your business not your friends'
09/23/2013
Happy Kupple Happy Kupple
Duhhhhhhh, of course it is, if that is what you want. Be safe though.
09/24/2013
JBeth JBeth
I wouldn't choose to, but it's your prerogative. Just make sure to be safe and do what feels good to you-- that's what matters the most!
10/16/2013
Holly Wood Holly Wood
I'm in the "it depends" range up there... and here's my take on things from my standpoint (and please, remember, it's just my personal opinion).

If you're playing around with a few people here and there because you're not in any real relationship, no biggie. Even if you're lonely and bar-hopping and meeting some new people, I'm not going to take issue if you're a friend of mine.

If you're just fucking to fuck or feel good about yourself and sleeping with a ton of people (say - I dunno, more than 2-3 a week/10 a month? Just trying to give a number for sake of a number here...), I'm going to pull out the slut card and smack you down with it.

If it's THAT extreme - then what kind of self-respect is there? Are you looking out for yourself? Really? Sure, playing around and sleeping with multiple people can be fun, but safety first, here. If it's that many, then how do you know you're not going to get abused, taken advantage of, raped, drugged, or who knows what else? If it's that many, you obviously don't know all of these people you're sleeping with. Trojan boasts a 7-12% failure rate if a condom is used improperly - and a 3-7% failure rate if used correctly, so even if you're using condoms, there's always a possibility there of failure (due to breakage, breakdown, etc.) and if it's that many, there's that much more chance of STD, STI, Pregnancy scares, etc.

What are you getting out of it? Do you just need to get off? Are you trying to make dudes like you? Trying to make you feel better about yourself? Feeling good because someone wants to fuck or says you're pretty? What's the draw?

I'm currently single, myself... I see someone from time to time and fool around, but we're not dating. I recently slept with someone else that I've known for ages and have plans on "hanging out" with someone else (and not coming home), but even just those three had me questioning myself as to what my motives with any of them were. I've had PLENTY of opportunity to get laid otherwise, I could have potentially slept with a dozen or more men in the past month, but I'd rather be safe about things... keep my numbers down, make sure it's someone that I really WANT to sleep with (for any number of reasons), and if I'm just wanting to get off, I can probably have a better orgasm with a vibrator anyway, if I REALLY wanted it - and then I wouldn't have to be self-conscious of my body, nervous because he was cute, etc.

Are you being tested at ANY point between these guys? Sometimes you don't even KNOW the condom failed - maybe there was a pinhole, maybe it broke upon entry and you didn't feel it and he didn't tell you... seriously, that's some dangerous shit right there. Just telling it to you straight up as I would one of my friends.

So really, elaborate for us - how many is it? What's the reason? How safe are you being? The pot can't exactly call the kettle black if it's shiny and chrome - you know?
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    I am personally offended by this
10/17/2013
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