there is no number.
i'll go ahead and publish mine here to make you feel better.
between 45 and fifty. not sure.
i'm not a slut. maybe i am a slut. yeah, i'm a slut. in the best sense of the word.
i seem to have really intense connections with a fair amount of people. i fall in love with a person's inside and connect to them quickly. making love results. often.
don't let anyone tell you you've had sex with 'too many people.'
if you're protecting yourself and not hurting others in the process, there's nothing wrong with having sex. period. there's not a 'cap' or 'limit' on how many partners one person 'should' have.
and if there were it sure as hell shouldn't be different for a woman than for a man. let alone a single woman versus one who was married. poly married folks have arrangements that can allow for both partners to do whatever they like, with however many folks they want to.