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Okay so obviously I own toys because I am on Edenfantasys but do they do more harm in the bedroom than help? I personally haven't had any negative reactions or results from using toys. The toys have enhanced my sex life but according to some of
Okay so obviously I own toys because I am on Edenfantasys but do they do more harm in the bedroom than help? I personally haven't had any negative reactions or results from using toys. The toys have enhanced my sex life but according to some of my friends who have been in their relationship for 5 years they say that they ruin your sex life and you become dependent on them, is that true?
I think the word "dependent" is what is really the issue here, not the toys. As individuals, we choose when and how we use our toys. If we use them constantly and forget how to be with our partner(s) without toys, that's on us, not the silicone.
Personally, I think blaming the status of our sex lives on anything or anyone but ourselves is taking the easy way out. As sexual beings it is important to claim our sexual agency and advocate for what we need and want.
If you're not happy with your sex life, tell your partner(s). Either they will engage with you and compromise, or they won't. My personal feeling is if they are of the latter camp, you should probably find somebody else to bone.
I confess, I have found myself in the group of individuals resenting their toys. My current partner has a heck of a time getting off without her vibrator. Some nights, I'm lazy, and concede to the plastic. But I'm always a little bummed after I do. I can do it. I can get her off, all by myself, if I want to. I'll be damned if I let some small bit of machinery please my partner better than me.
It's not the toy, it's how you use it.
(clarification: I am referring to the global you, not any one individual)