anal after 30 or just give up?

FREE MR PERRY FREE MR PERRY
I am almost thirty years old and i been trying anal for ten years and I still cant get the grip. Should I give up or keep trying?
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Keep trying
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15  (7%)
give up
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3  (1%)
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife and I have been trying on and off for 20+ years. We enjoy the journey and I believe we'll get there some day!
04/23/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
Just try every now and then, who knows maybe it will come sometime
04/23/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
Just try every now and then, who knows maybe it will come sometime
04/23/2011
ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by FREE MR PERRY
I am almost thirty years old and i been trying anal for ten years and I still cant get the grip. Should I give up or keep trying?
If you are interested then don't give up!
04/24/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
Keep trying if you really want it!
04/24/2011
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Like others have said, keep trying! Think about what you've tried in the past and how you could do things differently, or if there is a key factor that ties all your experiences together that may be stopping you from enjoying yourself.
04/24/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
It could be more about positioning than anything else.

I have to be completely comfortable in order to relax. It wasn't until we got the Liberator Ramp/Wedge last year, I was able to completely relax into a position and honestly say, "I am ready! and "I want it!" Shocked the hell out of my husband, let me tell you!

I am in my late 30's. If you are both interested in having anal sex, keep trying, try every position you have not tried yet, and use more lube!

You also may want to read this.
04/24/2011
Crash Crash
Keep trying. I wouldn't just give up. You have to be able to relax and that's going to be the hardest part. Take your time.
04/24/2011
ScottA ScottA
If you're still interested then keep trying.

I'd encourage you to broaden your definition of "anal sex" if the only thing you've been trying is having him put his penis in your anus. Back off, play a bit with toys and fingers and just learn to enjoy the sensations, then move on towards the penis if you want to go there. Whatever you do take it slow with lots of lube.
04/24/2011
RonLee RonLee
I agree with ScottA that doing more playtime experimentation other than anal intercourse would probably help.
04/24/2011
liilii080 liilii080
30 is young. If it gets to a point where there is more frustration than fun, take a break, but don't give up. Like many things, enjoy the journey on the way to the destination.
04/24/2011
indiglo indiglo
Totally agree with what's been stated. If you are enjoying it, carry on - if the frustration is overwhelming the fun, then take a break for a bit. And I agree that redefining your definition of anal sex is probably important too. It isn't like what you see in most porn - in fact FAR from it. So don't expect more from your body than it can actually do, and focus on enjoying what it can currently do.
04/24/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by FREE MR PERRY
I am almost thirty years old and i been trying anal for ten years and I still cant get the grip. Should I give up or keep trying?
I am 38 years old and just starting to really enjoy anal sex. don't give up. Things can always change for you.
04/24/2011
Fullbeauty Fullbeauty
I think it's never too old to get the hang of anything. Anal really is wonderful, it can always change. I think the key to enjoying it is relaxation.
04/25/2011
krisvida krisvida
keep on keepin on!
04/27/2011
Mommy2 Mommy2
Keep trying!
04/27/2011
Fuck it. Fuck it.
Keep trying! Don't forget to have fun while you do that. :p
04/27/2011
sexyk515 sexyk515
Keep trying
04/27/2011
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Make an effort to try a little more every day. Start with a lubed finger or very thin toy (even an anal thermometer), and then gradually increase to bigger toys or more fingers. Eventually, you'll start relaxing the internal muscles - both physically and psychologically. If you start and stop a lot, then it will be hard to notice any progress. If you keep at it, then you'll see that you are getting closer and closer to your goal. Just don't try to push too far too fast or you might tear the internal tissue and that's major concern (and hemorrhoids too of course). So be careful!
04/27/2011
Willis2011 Willis2011
keep trying
04/28/2011
sexygoddess sexygoddess
Keep at it!
04/28/2011
RomeroB RomeroB
Quote:
Originally posted by FREE MR PERRY
I am almost thirty years old and i been trying anal for ten years and I still cant get the grip. Should I give up or keep trying?
Keep trying. The first time my boyfriend and I tried it it was a horrible expirence for me. I was put off for years. We tried again and agian we just took it slow. Now after years of trying we finally got it and I am loving it. Remember to try and relax and use lots of lube.
05/04/2011
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
I do agree relax and lube are the key ingredients. I'd keep trying.
05/05/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
It could be more about positioning than anything else.



I have to be completely comfortable in order to relax. It wasn't until we got the Liberator Ramp/Wedge last year, I was able to completely relax into a position and honestly ... More
Don't want to be too personal - if you don't mind sharing, what position using the Ramp/Wedge makes you the most comfortable for anal sex?
05/05/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Don't want to be too personal - if you don't mind sharing, what position using the Ramp/Wedge makes you the most comfortable for anal sex?
I like to set the wedge on top of the highest point of the ramp and turn it so the high side becomes a cube instead of a really big ramp, then I can completely relax over it. Or on my back, use the wedge under my neck (to resist me sliding back down the ramp) with my rump all the way to the edge of the ramp, that way the legs can either fall open or wrap around his neck. All this takes place on a hard surface like the floor. Hope that makes sense.
05/05/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
I like to set the wedge on top of the highest point of the ramp and turn it so the high side becomes a cube instead of a really big ramp, then I can completely relax over it. Or on my back, use the wedge under my neck (to resist me sliding back down ... More
That's great - thanks!
05/05/2011
mariedoll mariedoll
keep going!!!!!!!
05/05/2011
PinkPedal PinkPedal
Keeping going, just keep trying different things till you get it
05/05/2011
SexyLilPixi SexyLilPixi
Quote:
Originally posted by liilii080
30 is young. If it gets to a point where there is more frustration than fun, take a break, but don't give up. Like many things, enjoy the journey on the way to the destination.
Perfectly stated.
05/07/2011
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