There are SO many toys out there - I have a plug and beads, but they really don't seem to be helpful. I do enjoy anal play and did enjoy the one time we were successful so I'd like to try again, I just have no idea where to start and what we should be doing differently to make it work. It hurts, A LOT, and at times has made me bleed just from trying, and he hasn't even really gotten the head in at all at that point. Maybe I am just not really built for it? I don't know!
The one time we were successful, I really have no idea what the difference was between that time and the others...position maybe, but there was definitely LESS lube and warm up time, so I don't know. Stars must have aligned for us that day!