I feel bad asking someone to use a penis extension...

LaradoEnah LaradoEnah
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I feel bad asking someone to use a penis extension. I want him to feel like he is god enough, cause he is, but I also kinda wanna experiment with that big boy. Is that wrong?
11/12/2012
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I don't think it's wrong, no. I mean it's not like you're saying he isn't enough, you just want some variety and to try a new thing.
11/12/2012
RonLee RonLee
There's also the aspect of not being quite erect enough after round three or more, particularly for anal intercourse. At least for me it's problematic.
11/12/2012
Roz W Roz W
it's not wrong, but it would matter if it was something your partner would be insecure about.

i think you already have the best approach -- "i want to experiment." and your partner is involved in the experiment, and that's always good.

i don't think it /should/ be a big deal. but i'm not your partner, you know? they have their own feelings, and it's gonna depend on how sensitive those feelings are.
11/12/2012
Real or memorex Real or memorex
^ Agree that this is about how you pitch it and your partner's sensitivity level.
11/12/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Categorically, it's not wrong. It's wrong for your relationship if it makes your partner feel insecure. Part of it will be how you bring it up and part of it will be his feelings on this stuff.
11/12/2012
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I agree with everyone here, it's all in how you bring it up. There are plenty of females who use toys bigger than their partners too. I do sometimes but it never means he isn't enough. It's just different.
11/12/2012
lalapetitee lalapetitee
For me it may be a hit at his self esteem if he is insecure about it. Why not just buy a few dildos for yourself to use when he isnt around or have him use i t on you. My partner would hurt my feelings if she asked me to buy some fake breasts to get a new feel but if she wanted to buy a doll or etc to play with I would be fine. But thats just my opinion. try to talk to him about it.
11/12/2012
spiced spiced
Tricky. I suggest a general discussion about fantasies/desires, letting him go first and with you being open to as much of his fantasies as possible. Then tell him yours and include the penis extension. Hopefully, he'll be okay with it and I think it's fairly likely if you're open to his fantasies. Have fun--and let us know how it goes!
11/13/2012
britanny0620 britanny0620
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Originally posted by LaradoEnah
I feel bad asking someone to use a penis extension. I want him to feel like he is god enough, cause he is, but I also kinda wanna experiment with that big boy. Is that wrong?
I don't think it's wrong, but I can also understand why it would be embarrassing or painful for the other person.
11/13/2012
sexyscreenname sexyscreenname
There is a difference between criticizing the size of someone's penis and asking if they would be interested in sexual play with a penis extension. Don't confuse the two and I am sure it go over smooth enough.
11/13/2012
Fluke Fluke
I have no problem with using a giant dildo on a woman but for some reason I think I'd be somewhat bummed if a girlfriend I liked said she wanted me to use a penis extension even just for a one time fantasy thing.

If there was such a thing as a boob extension for women and I asked you to wear it (lol this is crazy) how would you feel?

As others have said you should be careful in your exact wording but you should definitely go for it.

I also applaud you for fulfilling your fantasies inside your relationship, I think you are a very cool person, kudos!
11/13/2012
spiced spiced
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Originally posted by sexyscreenname
There is a difference between criticizing the size of someone's penis and asking if they would be interested in sexual play with a penis extension. Don't confuse the two and I am sure it go over smooth enough.
yes, but...it would be easy for HER not to confuse the two. The danger is that HE will take it as a criticism of his manhood. Which would be bad.
11/14/2012
Jack M. Jack M.
I know some guys who really get off on using a penis extension with their partner. There's really no need to be insecure about penis size.
11/14/2012
SepZet SepZet
Just try to ask him the right way!
11/17/2012
Checkmate Checkmate
My wife has never asked, and I doubt she would. If she did ask however, I would be more than willing to use a penis extension. Anything to help her get off!
11/17/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Phrase it as you want to try something new. Make it not about him, but about you. And then ask. You could also ask him to use a dildo on you. That would give you the same girth, and not make it about his penis.
11/17/2012
ChrisRNympho ChrisRNympho
Ok, Late post, I know, but... If you already include toys in your sexual relationship, make it clear that this is simply a toy rather than a replacement of his penis. The title "penis extension" is a rather insensitive term... think of them as dildos your guy can control like his actual penis - a metaphorical extension of his penis, like a tool, or in this case a dildo can be an extension of his hand. Explain to him that what's lacking with other dildos is the intamacy you have when he's inside of you, etc. It's not about replacing him, it's about using a toy (for variety, adventure, challenge, etc) that's more intimate, more real.
12/26/2012
cute cute
I agree I don't think it is wrong just do it in a good way make it fun
01/11/2013
AsianSensation! AsianSensation!
Quote:
Originally posted by LaradoEnah
I feel bad asking someone to use a penis extension. I want him to feel like he is god enough, cause he is, but I also kinda wanna experiment with that big boy. Is that wrong?
No I don't think so at all!
01/11/2013
SexySoundLab SexySoundLab
Quote:
Originally posted by LaradoEnah
I feel bad asking someone to use a penis extension. I want him to feel like he is god enough, cause he is, but I also kinda wanna experiment with that big boy. Is that wrong?
I don't think it's wrong, you might even find out that he enjoys it
02/18/2013
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